God Loves Me, Too

[John V]

Depends on how important anal is to you, John.

Exactly. If it's so important that, despite an otherwise good sex life, I would leave over it, then it's too important to me. I'm out of balance.

Most of this is riding on the fact that you don't find sex to be as important as I apparently do - and as many other people I knew apparently did.

No, it's riding on the fact that I don't find any particular sexual practices so important as to override the rest of the relationship. You've said that the regular sex is fantastic. Same here. To me, that's enough. There are certain things I'd like that she's not into. So what? Seems pretty selfish and immature to leave over them.

---

Sorry, but I think "Hey, you're a wonderful person and I love you, but I'm leaving you because you won't take it up the ass" would indicate a very selfish, imbalanced person.

LOL...but you are absolutely right. And that list goes well beyond just sex.

I would like to think that if my wife somehow became physically incapable of having sex that I'd still be faithful and happy.

I've thought about this one, too. And for truly committed husbands and wives, it changes there whole view about sex. After his wife developed breast cancer, one man I know said, "Now I'm just happy to be able to hold her hand." And it makes me teary eyed just to write that.

Brought a tear to my eye to read it. Beautiful.