(April 4, 2013 at 5:09 pm)festive1 Wrote: Because if you put your spousal relationship on the back burner for 20 years while you're raising kids, you can wake up one day next to someone you aren't so compatible with anymore.This started with the idea that the biblical ban on premarital sex could put sexually incompatible people together from the start. Your scenario is the opposite, and doesn't involve Biblical restrictions. We can discuss the situation as a side issue if you're just interested in the subject.
Quote:People do grow and change over time and couples don't always grow together, sometimes they grow apart. People grow and change sexually as well.Yes, and this was one of my arguments. Even if you determine you're compatible through premarital sex, it's unlikely you'll both stay as you are for the rest of your lives, particularly if you have children. Biblically or not, you'll need to work on maintaining compatibility and satisfaction.
Quote:In keeping with the sexiness of the thread: I know many couples that have had sexual incompatibility issues post-kids. It's difficult to switch from mommy or daddy mode, to sexy-time mode. A woman's hormone changes post-kids can change her libido. A man can find a post-baby body unappealing. Amongst other things. If left unresolved, these sexual issues can ruin a marriage.Yep. Personally, I think resolving them - or better yet not letting them get too bad in the first place - is the proper response, while leaving and looking for a new, more compatible partner would be a selfish response.
