How do you know God isn't dead?

[smax]

as soon as you say "if god exists", they win the argument,

On this, I think i can assume that you do not have a strong religious background.

You seem to think that it's Atheists vs. Theists. It's rarely that. Most of the time, it's Theists vs. Theists, and they always offer up the premise that god exists.

That's not nearly enough to satisfy them. They almost all have an ideal version of god, and when someone else's version doesn't fit, they quite often tell each other that the other's god is bogus, or that god will not accept them as they see him.

Believe me, religious people are far more desperate to fight with each other than they will ever be to fight with the non-religious. And that alone proves your theory is incorrect.

You can't break through the armor, you have to get in there and strip it away from the inside.

“The God of the Old Testament is arguably the most unpleasant character in all fiction: jealous and proud of it; a petty, unjust, unforgiving control-freak; a vindictive, bloodthirsty ethnic cleanser; a misogynistic, homophobic, racist, infanticidal, genocidal, filicidal, pestilential, megalomaniacal, sadomasochistic, capriciously malevolent bully.” -- Richard Dawkins