(June 17, 2013 at 8:33 pm)rexbeccarox Wrote:(June 17, 2013 at 5:27 pm)Godschild Wrote:
Problem, though, GC is that I found that those same people who wave at you have no problem talking behind your back five minutes later. I spent a long time there, so I feel I know the area and a lot of the people well. For example, when my dad died, the church ladies from his church (my dad was extremely religious) somehow overrode my sister's and my plans for the ceremony, and when my mom showed up for us (which was above and beyond for her- they had been divorced eighteen years) the entire congregation was aflutter. I even walked in on a group of people talking about her gall for showing up. This was in Oak Ridge, and believe me, every one of those people was a Native Tennessean United Methodist.
Thanks for your sympathy, though. I do appreciate it.
Like I was saying our age difference probably has some bearing on things, and I do wish you had gotten to know the people I know. I can promise you my church would have never treated you that way, nor would they have talked about your mom, actually they would have been glad she came to support you. We understand how things go in families and know that it's not really any of our business, we like to be supportive for others. If this conversation is uncomfortable for you, don't feel like you need to answer, I do understand.
God loves those who believe and those who do not and the same goes for me, you have no choice in this matter. That puts the matter of total free will to rest.