(October 4, 2013 at 9:38 pm)Brakeman Wrote: In my opinion,
If humans were ducks, we'd look at the ducks switching partners and we would laugh because we would see that there really isn't much difference from the previous duck to the next.
We're not so individually different that the vast majority of first marriages couldn't last, it is simply that we don't make it a priority in life to learn the skills of how to get along with one another and learn what makes each other tick in a relationship. If you fight with your husband or wife often enough to disturb the kids, then you aren't going to be any happier in the next relationship if you don't learn how to properly relate to someone. Furthermore, you won't be able to teach your kids about healthy relationships either.
Chronic fighting is already divorced, you just haven't moved out yet.
No argument with the above except one point - sometimes it's one partner who's being a shithead and won't change. What then?
I know someone who was trapped in a marriage like that - and I've seen and heard enough of how he treats her 8 years after they split up to believe every word of what she's told me. (Some of you may recall the thread where I related the story of having to escort the creep from her home at the end of a baseball bat. Same guy).