I haven't voted in the pole simply because I believe it is impossible to do so.
In some cases I guess it is better to get divorced. In others counselling and in others to live together but with some degree (varying according to case) of autonomy.
I guess my advice to Ivy is that if you and your husband can agree a path forwards (whatever that might be) then that is probably the right thing to do - although frankly you will never really know.
If you decide on divorce for the kids the most important thing as far as I can see is to keep them informed. Tell them what is happening and why, as best you can (assuming they are of an age where they can understand). Tell them repeatedly its nothing to do with them and its not their fault. Explain that each of you loves them but not each other and that in the end they will see its better for everyone this way.
Whatever you do the kids will likely be upset for a while. That's OK - its normal but kids are resilient and they'll get over it. Just make sure you both make a fuss over them.
In some cases I guess it is better to get divorced. In others counselling and in others to live together but with some degree (varying according to case) of autonomy.
I guess my advice to Ivy is that if you and your husband can agree a path forwards (whatever that might be) then that is probably the right thing to do - although frankly you will never really know.
If you decide on divorce for the kids the most important thing as far as I can see is to keep them informed. Tell them what is happening and why, as best you can (assuming they are of an age where they can understand). Tell them repeatedly its nothing to do with them and its not their fault. Explain that each of you loves them but not each other and that in the end they will see its better for everyone this way.
Whatever you do the kids will likely be upset for a while. That's OK - its normal but kids are resilient and they'll get over it. Just make sure you both make a fuss over them.
