I don't like kids, and I don't want to get married. I'm just not much of a family man.
But I think an effort needs to be made to repair a marriage, first for the sake of the partners in the marriage, and secondly for the kids. My biological father died when I was 14, but was convalescent since I was 6. This was due to the effects of Agent Orange, a product used in Vietnam. I know I suffered for the time that my mother was taking care of both me and my biological father, until his death and my mothers' remarriage. It's just too much on one's plate. Having kids is usually better with two people. Well, having kids and not messing them up.
But, I believe in divorce. Frankly, I wish I knew more about it in a legal sense. My grandparents have been married for over 60 years. They get really cranky towards eachother, but the underlying love is there, and is obvious. My best friend married 2 years ago and it is already heading towards divorce. A cousin of mine, with three kids, is also heading towards divorce. In some cases, divorce seems like a cop out to me, and in others, it seems outright necessary. Where the fine line is, I have no clue. But it does make me sad that todays generation of married folks give up so easily.
That is part of why I don't wish to marry. Marriage almost seems like a resource-intensive version of dating now.
But I think an effort needs to be made to repair a marriage, first for the sake of the partners in the marriage, and secondly for the kids. My biological father died when I was 14, but was convalescent since I was 6. This was due to the effects of Agent Orange, a product used in Vietnam. I know I suffered for the time that my mother was taking care of both me and my biological father, until his death and my mothers' remarriage. It's just too much on one's plate. Having kids is usually better with two people. Well, having kids and not messing them up.
But, I believe in divorce. Frankly, I wish I knew more about it in a legal sense. My grandparents have been married for over 60 years. They get really cranky towards eachother, but the underlying love is there, and is obvious. My best friend married 2 years ago and it is already heading towards divorce. A cousin of mine, with three kids, is also heading towards divorce. In some cases, divorce seems like a cop out to me, and in others, it seems outright necessary. Where the fine line is, I have no clue. But it does make me sad that todays generation of married folks give up so easily.
That is part of why I don't wish to marry. Marriage almost seems like a resource-intensive version of dating now.
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
