I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Having no one to talk to about things like this is so difficult. That's why I've joined today (and this is my first post too).
I am an atheist married to a Christian, who is part of an extended devout Lutheran family. I was very ill recently and had everyone in his family and church praying for me. It's extremely annoying to me but on the other hand, how can I fault them for caring? I usually just say thank you when they say they're praying for me. Honestly, I'd rather they not. Like you, I think that time could be much better spent and I am really irritated at the idea that god might save me if enough people pray, or that if I kick the bucket it was god's will. Which is it?
Still, I know they are sincere, and I want to acknowledge that. BUT - when it's coming at you from all sides and constantly, you just want to scream, eh?
For many people, having a deity and community to lean on during difficult times is a great comfort. In fact it's just about the only thing I envy about people of faith. I try to accept their sincere concern.
Having like-minded people to talk to and vent with is a great way to deal with this frustration.
I am an atheist married to a Christian, who is part of an extended devout Lutheran family. I was very ill recently and had everyone in his family and church praying for me. It's extremely annoying to me but on the other hand, how can I fault them for caring? I usually just say thank you when they say they're praying for me. Honestly, I'd rather they not. Like you, I think that time could be much better spent and I am really irritated at the idea that god might save me if enough people pray, or that if I kick the bucket it was god's will. Which is it?
Still, I know they are sincere, and I want to acknowledge that. BUT - when it's coming at you from all sides and constantly, you just want to scream, eh?
For many people, having a deity and community to lean on during difficult times is a great comfort. In fact it's just about the only thing I envy about people of faith. I try to accept their sincere concern.
Having like-minded people to talk to and vent with is a great way to deal with this frustration.
