Another thing people need to realize is because women are often told how to prevent rape, when rape or other types of sexual assault or harassment actually happens, they very quickly think about all the things they did "wrong". And that is a factor in why they don't tell people about what happened: they don't want to hear it from 30 different people and more importantly they don't want to hear someone saying, oh, well, you can't really blame the guy for that after what you did. There are other factors of course, but this definitely plays a role. You may think you know why they don't want someone to tell them they could've done something to prevent it, but until you've been told that yourself, you won't understand how horrible it makes you feel.
And the truth is, it's a horrible thing to say. Women are human too, we make mistakes, sometimes we forget to bring our phone with us, that doesn't mean we could've prevented it if we had a phone, do you know how easy it is to smash a phone? Women even get raped by their own husbands. How on earth do you prevent that? Most of the time rape is committed by someone who knows the girl pretty well. It just borders on ridiculous the things you have to do to "prevent" rape and in this reality all those precautions probably doesn't even significantly alter your chances.
And the truth is, it's a horrible thing to say. Women are human too, we make mistakes, sometimes we forget to bring our phone with us, that doesn't mean we could've prevented it if we had a phone, do you know how easy it is to smash a phone? Women even get raped by their own husbands. How on earth do you prevent that? Most of the time rape is committed by someone who knows the girl pretty well. It just borders on ridiculous the things you have to do to "prevent" rape and in this reality all those precautions probably doesn't even significantly alter your chances.
