Maybe People Should Not Look Up To YouTube Atheist

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Here's the thing about all this talk of precautions: yes, there are a set of behaviors that women can take that'll reduce the risk, but by and large, they're already taking them, because women aren't idiots and this shit is common sense. But there comes a point where the onus of safety also falls upon the person forcibly removing that safety by committing the crime at all, and unfortunately the actual conversation about it hasn't seemed to catch up yet. Rape is one of those very few crimes where the conversation can begin and end with what the victim could have done differently, as though it's just a naturally occurring event that requires no second party: "Oh, she shouldn't have been drunk/out alone/without a weapon etc etc"

Well, she also shouldn't have been around a rapist.

I've known more than a few women who've been raped, heard their stories, and it burns me up every time. The only common denominator is that a rapist was present. That's the only unifying factor, and yet here we are discussing women's safety again, instead of rapist prevention. I know the former seems more clearly delineated and easy, while the latter is perplexing and scary, but part of the reason these talks so often get bogged down like this is precisely because there's one seemingly easy path, despite the fact that, in truth, it's only (inexpertly) treating a symptom instead of the disease. And in the process, we end up encouraging women to close themselves off and be defensive while out... and then deride them for doing so when it's put into practice. I can't tell you how many women I've seen sworn at on the late train home, merely for the crime of not wanting strange male attention, called frigid bitches for doing precisely what they're encouraged to do to stop rape. This is supposed to be the simple answer to this problem?