Maybe People Should Not Look Up To YouTube Atheist

[TaraJo]

I'm forced to agree with him. I've been in more than my fair share of disputes with wacked out feminists and these discussions never go well.

Here's an example, from my personal life. A friend of mine used to like going to nightclubs all the time. Thing was, she had a habit of going alone and not keeping a good eye on her drink. Eventually, a guy put something into her drink and her memory got "fuzzy" for the next 12 or so hours. Yeah, she was pretty darn sure the guy put a roofie in her drink and we're pretty sure she was raped. I sympathized with her, I was supportive and everything like that, but shortly afterwards, when she started going back to the clubs, she still wasn't keeping an eye on her drink. Me, I think it would be a really douche-bag move not to point out that she should watch her drink better so someone doesn't put something in it. Yet, if I were to make a similar comment in a heavy feminist environment, all I hear is shouts of how I'm victim blaming or saying she deserved to be raped or absolving the rapist of responsibility.

Or, to use another metaphore, when I was 9, I was a latch-key kid. Since my brother and I were the last ones to leave the house every morning, locking up was our responsibility. I forgot to lock up one day and, sure enough, we got robbed. I'm sure my dad, when he found out about it, he blamed the robber, but he was pretty damn upset with me. If he punished me for us getting robbed, was that victim blaming? Would that mean my dad was trying to absolve the robber of responsibility?

However, I have heard from other, more reasonable feminists who are able to explain it a bit better, with issues of victims blaming themselves or having issues with self esteem and I'll agree, those are legitimate issues. But it's pretty rare to get those reasonable explanations; usually it's just a few angry, shrill girls, calling us misogynists and rape supporters until they run out of breath. I'm finding that the feminist message isn't always bad, but a lot of the people who carry the feminist banner do a TERRIBLE job at expressing their views in a constructive manner.