(April 19, 2014 at 7:10 pm)Faith No More Wrote: I coped by indulging in my grief and releasing all of my emotions. I would do things like listen to "I Grieve" by Peter Gabriel and just cry, and I would write what I was feeling on paper. Purging myself seemed to give me temporary relief, and eventually, after enough time, releasing my emotions was no longer necessary. I rationalized and contemplated it enough that I slowly began to cope and time helps with that.
Grief is one of those things that no one can give you truly good advice, because we all experience and deal with emotions differently. That's why religion seems to appear tempting, because it gives an easy answer. I found, however, that holding onto my intellectual integrity outweighed believing in something just to make difficult emotional trials easier.
I think this is good advice. I can't recommend holding your emotions in, pushing them aside, or burying them. In my experience, that shit comes back to bite you in the ass. I'm currently going through therapy to finally deal with the emotions I buried when a friend was murdered in 1986, amongst other things. It isn't healthy. Let yourself experience it.
There are no shortcuts.
