RE: Help, I need someone to talk to
September 2, 2014 at 6:35 pm
(This post was last modified: September 2, 2014 at 6:38 pm by onebluethinker.)
(September 2, 2014 at 6:23 pm)Tobie Wrote: If your parents are going to react badly if you tell them, it's probably best not to, at least until you've left home.
Definitely tell your atheist friends though, they should at least understand what you're going through and be something of a support network to you.
Thanks for responding and thanks for the advice. I doubt I'm patient enough and think my parents are mean enough to wait until I leave home to tell my parents, but I do think I'm going to tell my friends very soon.
A question about atheist friends: I should know, being an atheist, that you can't generalize atheists... but do you mind if I ask for a bit more advice about coming out to my friends? One of them I only met this school year, and she told me she was an atheist today right after I told her all about my old religion, which she was calmly and politely asking about, supportively telling me all my old traditions were really cool. Should I wait until I'm better friends with her? Will she think worse of me for lying to her? Also how do I talk to her about this stuff without anyone else finding out?
I'm so clueless, being mostly deconverted from Google+ posts. Sorry if I'm asking tons of stupid questions.
(September 2, 2014 at 6:31 pm)ShaMan Wrote: It sounds like your mother's love for you is important to you. The only advice I have is to love your mother. Be yourself (atheist or otherwise) and be the most sincere, caring and honest person you can be. Your mother loves you. She's got some of her own processing going on right now - give her space.
Be true to yourself. If your 'friends' leave because of what someone else tells them about you then they were never really your friends. As long as you are true to yourself, are good to others, and do no harm, then you'll do great! Hang in there
Thanks for the caring words. I'm having an identity as well as a moral crisis but I know I'll always love my parents. Also I really don't think I'll tell any friends that I'm atheist if my parents will find out I told them. I was always the good kid and I want to resolve things with parents before I let the wide world now. At least hopefully that's how it'll work out.
