The Jesus Freaks Will Hate This

[Esquilax]

My questions are relevant to the subject.

What M'colleague Snake Oil said: content isn't the issue, but rather the way you want to frame the answer. To be clear, despite your protestations the question about beating your wife really isn't irrelevant, in that its relevancy is directly related to the context it's asked in, and there wasn't any context to the question. It's literally impossible for the question to be either relevant or irrelevant, because there's no framework for it to be relevant within.

No, the issue is that the question and the way the answer is to be formulated makes the question leading; it's designed to draw you toward a single answer or set of answers, and may in fact leave you unable to give a truthful answer. That's the problem both with the example, and your questions generally: you ask something that requires qualifiers and details to properly reflect the position of the answerer, but demand the response come in a format that prevents them from providing that accurate information. You've now manipulated the parameters of the question to force your opposite numbers to skirt close to, if not outright engage in, a lie that's more useful for your position than the truth.