(March 20, 2015 at 6:57 am)Bad Wolf Wrote: And that was the reason he gave? Nothing else? Sounds like the tactics of an abuser to me. How could any sane judge agree to that?
I don't know anything about law but surely they can only do that for a legitimate reason and not just that your ex wants it. In any case, the courts made the wrong decision, i'm sure they'll come to their senses eventually.
What was your mother doing to your daughter? What boundaries was she crossing?
It'll be a good character reference for the courts, to know the bond you have developed with your fiances kids
That was his reason. And yes, those on my side were all VERY shocked at the judges decision.
With regards to the law, when a person has plenary guardianship over a person and their estate (their SSI funding in my daughter's case), they have complete control over that person's affairs including who they get to see, where they get to live, what sorts of medical and/or education decisions are made, where their money goes etc. He has completely and utterly cut me out of her life. This will be my strongest argument for Parental Alienation when I file my petition for getting his guardianship revoked. The fact that he testified, under oath, that it would never be his intention to destroy the bond that I share with my daughter, he has done every thing he can to ensure that I am completely out of her life.
The boundaries that I had set for my mother were simple. Since 2005, my ex has taken me to court dozens of times. There was a span of approximately seven years where he wanted nothing to do with my oldest and was rather adamant about it. I had reduced myself to limited contact with him because during this time, we had shared equal physical and legal custody of my youngest daughter. It was week on/ week off. Given his inability to try and get along and co-parent her with me, I told my mother that under no circumstances was he allowed to see my oldest child while she was with my mother during the occasional weekend. My mother secretly called him during those weekends and he would sometimes go down there and "visit" my daughter. I did not know any of this was happening until 2010. I confronted my mother on this and asked her why she would allow this to happen, given that he told me numerous times that he was not her father and wasn't interested in being a part of her life in that way. She played it off and made excuses and lied about it. She knew how abusive he was and yet she continued doing what she wanted. Because she refused to respect my wishes and my boundaries as Jordan's mom, I cut her off.
My ex was refusing to cooperate with me in regards to my other child and I did not want him around my older one. As their mother, I had a right to make this decision. My mother did not have the right to go behind my back and continue contact with him. Regardless, there was no compelling reason for her to have any need to contact him. She knew what she was doing and she knew it was disrespectful. I told her that because she was incapable of showing me any respect, she would no longer be allowed to have Jordan come down on the weekends because I could not trust her to do the right thing.
As a punishment for my cutting off her contact from Jordan, she decided to help my sister fund my ex's attorney's fees. She furthered this by also lying on the witness stand during two custody hearings between 2010 and 2013. My sister had also lied during those hearings and during the guardianship hearing. My mother was not present for the guardianship hearing.
Bottom line: The lies they told in court were convincing enough for the judge. Despite my being truthful and pointing out to the judge that there was not a single provable accusation from my ex, he still sided with him. Personally, due to the corruption here, I think it was partly because my ex had the more expensive attorney. Can't prove it, but if you look at everything else, it sort of jives with all of it.
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