(April 3, 2015 at 1:56 pm)Faith No More Wrote: I wasn't trying to imply that they should, just that a fear of a parent's acceptance isn't a good reason to keep something from them by itself. Sure, when you have the other factors like financial dependence you have to take those into consideration, but I was trying to point out that people shouldn't feel the need conform to their parents' beliefs, despite how practical it may seem.
I've just seen enough destruction in my life from poor parenting and a child's inability to speak up against it that I think it's important to let teenagers know that they have to teach their parents lessons, too, and one of those lessons is when and where it is appropriate to determine what the child does with their life and who they become. Parents sometimes aren't very good at recognizing boundaries, but they'll never recognize them at all if the kid doesn't speak up.
Yeah. This just shouldn't be an issue. Ideally parents should respect their children's beliefs and indentity, but unfortunately that's far from reality.
I hear you on the speaking up part. I know some people who allow their parents to plan their life out for them and never object. It's really harmful and impairs the child's ability to function on their own. I think it should be a gradual process, as the child grows up they should slowly begin standing up to their parents. I say this because I feel like most either do it very aggressively by rebelling against everything or don't do it at all.
