(May 31, 2015 at 9:09 pm)Jenny A Wrote:(May 31, 2015 at 8:58 pm)Exian Wrote: I think it should exist just for those who like that sort of kink, but not as something to feel shameful about. Actually, wouldn't the shameful aspect have to exist to get anything out of the kink?
Nope! I'm both pretty kinky and pretty shameless. Pain is a sexual hot sauce for me. I like to both give and receive it. It's sensation overload and goes great with sex. Also, probably TMI, but the human face in pain and in orgasm are very similar, as is the sound of cumming and the sound of pain. That said there is sexy pain and not sexy pain. The trick is to stick to the former. I'm not interested in pain unless my partner also finds it arousing.
Finally, I'm a control freak. While shame might explain those who want to be forced, how do you explain those of us who want to do the consensual forcing? (Yes, I realize that's an oxymoron but it is what is wanted).
I think though, without the existence of sexual taboos and very real shame, where would be the opening for people with humiliation kinks?
