(June 13, 2015 at 11:51 pm)bennyboy Wrote:(June 13, 2015 at 10:41 pm)Nope Wrote: I am not certain why this is complicated. Why can't the guy simply say, no and walk away? People turn each other down for sex all the time. It isn't as if you are obligated to have sex with anyone.I'm not talking about the act. I'm talking about the psychological effect. If anyone here disagrees that the average man would NOT be shocked or possibly traumatized by a last-minute reveal, then that's a different conversation.
Woah Woah Woah... this is a massive red herring. Last minute reveal is not a quality of transgendered people. It is a quality of a bad person. If a transgendered person didn't tell an intimate partner they were about to have sex with that they are preoperative trans, then the person cannot make a fully informed decision in consenting to a sexual encounter. Now, I can only go by what my reaction would be, and that would be anger at not being told. I certainly wouldn't be traumatized. I'm not afraid of penises. But I can only assume that some men might be afraid of seeing a penis by surprise. I think maybe some guys might think they had a gay experience. But if you were attracted to someone who is female, then a quick thought about it would erase that fear. Also, removing the thought that a gay experience (even though you're not having one) doesn't make you less of a man or less straight would help.
A transgender person is not required to tell everyone they meet that they are transgender, but adult sexual situations do require that a person be fully informed as to what they're getting into.
To imply that there are transgendered people out there all over the place that will just trick you into bed is really disingenuous. There is probably a roughly equal incidence of shitty trans people as there are shitty everyone else.
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