The right to mis-define oneself

[Thumpalumpacus]

I need help. Where's the part in your horror story where the dude has something shoved up his ass against his will? Unless you insert this into your little scenario you don't have anything close to rape. Your imagined trauma is like saying you know what slavery was like because you were asked to work some overtime; there is simply no equivalence.

They are both kinds of sexual assault.  They involve an expression of one's own sexuality that one should know will cause trauma in another individual.

They are of such different characters that your continued equivocation, without addressing the point, is grating.