YL, I think that is the heart of it.
Without knowing the two transgender folks that I know, I would never have even given this whole situation much thought. As it is, I had to ask myself all these questions, framed by what I've learned about them. If I found a transgender woman attractive, how would I respond to that? Could I have a relationship with that woman that I was attracted to? I still don't know what a reconstructed vagina would look or feel like, but could have a fulfilling relationship with that person?
I think the answer to both would have to be yes, if I were being honest. As I grow older, the sexual component of relationships is lower on the hierarchy---it is still wildly important, but personality, intellect, openness, safety---these are all components that are more important to me. So if I felt all of the above with a transgender woman, and we had been dating and she revealed to me that she was in the process of transitioning---or not---I would consider it.
Without these people in my life, without their effect on both my knowledge and empathy about this whole topic, I don't think I'd ever have moved past the "eww gross no" stage.
Without knowing the two transgender folks that I know, I would never have even given this whole situation much thought. As it is, I had to ask myself all these questions, framed by what I've learned about them. If I found a transgender woman attractive, how would I respond to that? Could I have a relationship with that woman that I was attracted to? I still don't know what a reconstructed vagina would look or feel like, but could have a fulfilling relationship with that person?
I think the answer to both would have to be yes, if I were being honest. As I grow older, the sexual component of relationships is lower on the hierarchy---it is still wildly important, but personality, intellect, openness, safety---these are all components that are more important to me. So if I felt all of the above with a transgender woman, and we had been dating and she revealed to me that she was in the process of transitioning---or not---I would consider it.
Without these people in my life, without their effect on both my knowledge and empathy about this whole topic, I don't think I'd ever have moved past the "eww gross no" stage.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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