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Hostage to fear
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RE: Hostage to fear
Welcome, SpaceTime! Smile

Yours is an interesting story that raises lots of questions: A confused and conflicted (almost ex-)Christian, the product of two atheists, struggling to reconcile reason with a personal relationship with a mental construct, all while trying to protect your family. And somehow, the atheist parents play a lesser role than you'd expect. Or do they? Have they tried to influence your thinking in any constructive ways? How have they acted as bad examples? Just curious.

Would you mind going into more detail of what you mean when you say you love Jesus? You love his story? His message? Or you love him personally? I don't mean to grill you, I'm just curious, because I remember being a Christian and always being confused by the manner in which certain terms were used by fellow Christians, and how those same terms seemed to be different when they used them in other areas in life.

Thanks for sharing your story and concerns with us, SpaceTime (what time is it? Smile ) I remember going through the same turmoil when I was deconverting. The biggest hurdle for me wasn't swallowing any competing scientific explanations, or accepting the inconsistencies in the story; it was recognizing that my personal God and Jesus were created by me in my head (a useful talent for negotiating possible social situations).
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:

"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."

For context, this is the previous verse:

"Hi Jesus" -robvalue
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Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 11:47 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - June 17, 2015 at 12:10 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 12:25 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 17, 2015 at 12:16 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by LastPoet - June 17, 2015 at 12:40 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 1:05 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - June 17, 2015 at 3:05 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 17, 2015 at 12:41 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Tonus - June 17, 2015 at 12:46 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - June 17, 2015 at 12:48 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 17, 2015 at 12:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 17, 2015 at 2:23 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 17, 2015 at 2:53 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 17, 2015 at 2:59 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by SteelCurtain - June 17, 2015 at 3:03 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Longhorn - June 17, 2015 at 3:07 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 8:48 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 17, 2015 at 10:15 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 18, 2015 at 12:58 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 18, 2015 at 11:24 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 5:26 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 20, 2015 at 9:29 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 20, 2015 at 11:00 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 21, 2015 at 12:08 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 21, 2015 at 12:50 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 21, 2015 at 9:06 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 21, 2015 at 9:33 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 21, 2015 at 4:54 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 23, 2015 at 5:56 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Simon Moon - June 23, 2015 at 6:11 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 23, 2015 at 6:18 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Simon Moon - June 24, 2015 at 3:14 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 24, 2015 at 1:59 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 24, 2015 at 5:31 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 24, 2015 at 5:48 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 24, 2015 at 7:29 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 24, 2015 at 7:38 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 24, 2015 at 8:34 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 16, 2015 at 10:04 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 16, 2015 at 10:18 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 16, 2015 at 10:40 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 17, 2015 at 7:38 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 17, 2015 at 9:10 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 17, 2015 at 9:41 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 17, 2015 at 9:48 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 17, 2015 at 10:19 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 18, 2015 at 7:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 19, 2015 at 8:42 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 19, 2015 at 11:49 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - July 19, 2015 at 1:09 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 19, 2015 at 9:15 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Wyrd of Gawd - July 19, 2015 at 9:45 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 19, 2015 at 6:38 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 19, 2015 at 9:27 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 19, 2015 at 10:39 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 20, 2015 at 6:42 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 20, 2015 at 7:38 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - July 20, 2015 at 9:34 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 7:53 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 9:03 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by dyresand - July 19, 2015 at 11:57 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 19, 2015 at 12:46 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by dyresand - July 19, 2015 at 12:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by dyresand - July 19, 2015 at 1:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Wyrd of Gawd - June 19, 2015 at 11:33 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 20, 2015 at 12:02 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Wyrd of Gawd - June 20, 2015 at 12:14 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 20, 2015 at 11:15 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 17, 2015 at 8:51 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 9:09 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 17, 2015 at 9:19 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by ignoramus - June 17, 2015 at 9:39 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Exian - June 17, 2015 at 9:57 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 17, 2015 at 10:53 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 17, 2015 at 10:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 18, 2015 at 9:13 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 18, 2015 at 11:30 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 6:33 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 17, 2015 at 10:22 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Jenny A - June 17, 2015 at 10:43 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Longhorn - June 18, 2015 at 1:08 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 18, 2015 at 1:12 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 18, 2015 at 3:56 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 18, 2015 at 9:25 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 18, 2015 at 9:31 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Jenny A - June 18, 2015 at 11:49 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 18, 2015 at 11:35 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 18, 2015 at 11:56 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 19, 2015 at 12:44 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Wyrd of Gawd - June 19, 2015 at 11:47 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 20, 2015 at 12:17 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 1:57 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 4:50 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Longhorn - June 19, 2015 at 7:16 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 19, 2015 at 4:33 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 19, 2015 at 8:58 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - June 19, 2015 at 9:40 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 10:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 19, 2015 at 10:28 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 10:35 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 19, 2015 at 4:03 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Longhorn - June 19, 2015 at 4:38 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 4:52 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 19, 2015 at 8:09 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 8:33 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Exian - June 19, 2015 at 7:25 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 8:47 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 8:04 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 8:17 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 8:45 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 9:31 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 19, 2015 at 10:54 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 19, 2015 at 10:57 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 19, 2015 at 11:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by SteelCurtain - June 19, 2015 at 11:29 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 20, 2015 at 12:01 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 20, 2015 at 12:20 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 20, 2015 at 12:18 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Wyrd of Gawd - June 20, 2015 at 12:35 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - June 20, 2015 at 1:11 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 20, 2015 at 2:30 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 20, 2015 at 9:30 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 20, 2015 at 11:44 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - June 21, 2015 at 1:58 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 21, 2015 at 2:07 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 21, 2015 at 3:05 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 21, 2015 at 5:05 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - June 21, 2015 at 12:11 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 21, 2015 at 5:01 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 22, 2015 at 4:21 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Minimalist - June 24, 2015 at 2:18 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by tonechaser77 - June 24, 2015 at 5:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by iburnwater - June 24, 2015 at 8:46 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 24, 2015 at 11:32 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 25, 2015 at 12:22 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - June 25, 2015 at 9:55 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 26, 2015 at 4:02 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by SuperEddy - June 26, 2015 at 9:54 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by ignoramus - June 25, 2015 at 1:49 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by dyresand - June 25, 2015 at 10:01 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - June 25, 2015 at 5:31 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 26, 2015 at 11:29 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by SuperEddy - June 27, 2015 at 8:03 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - June 28, 2015 at 2:05 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Longhorn - July 17, 2015 at 4:44 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by ignoramus - July 17, 2015 at 5:14 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by ignoramus - July 17, 2015 at 7:50 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 17, 2015 at 8:15 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 17, 2015 at 8:11 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 17, 2015 at 8:22 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Godschild - July 17, 2015 at 10:51 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - July 17, 2015 at 11:31 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Godschild - July 20, 2015 at 6:05 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Crossless1 - July 20, 2015 at 6:07 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 20, 2015 at 6:42 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Godschild - July 20, 2015 at 8:43 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 20, 2015 at 9:13 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 7:24 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 21, 2015 at 2:54 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 22, 2015 at 4:53 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 22, 2015 at 5:02 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 23, 2015 at 4:08 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 23, 2015 at 10:41 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 4:18 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 4:34 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 6:07 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 6:21 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 7:45 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 8:08 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 8:10 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 9:02 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 9:19 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 9:23 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 9:26 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 9:36 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 9:41 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 9:48 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 10:00 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 10:10 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 10:22 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 25, 2015 at 9:36 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Ravenshire - July 24, 2015 at 10:58 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 8:44 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 9:37 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 26, 2015 at 8:16 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 27, 2015 at 4:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 24, 2015 at 5:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 24, 2015 at 5:11 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 23, 2015 at 4:23 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 9:21 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 10:14 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 9:46 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Godschild - July 23, 2015 at 12:10 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 23, 2015 at 5:28 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Godschild - July 24, 2015 at 3:25 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 19, 2015 at 11:24 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 19, 2015 at 1:14 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Pyrrho - July 19, 2015 at 1:21 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 19, 2015 at 1:44 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - July 19, 2015 at 10:43 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 20, 2015 at 6:49 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - July 20, 2015 at 7:41 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by The Grand Nudger - July 21, 2015 at 9:06 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 9:22 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 21, 2015 at 9:11 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 21, 2015 at 9:26 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 21, 2015 at 10:27 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 21, 2015 at 3:05 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 22, 2015 at 1:05 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 23, 2015 at 4:16 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Redbeard The Pink - July 23, 2015 at 11:01 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 9:09 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Redbeard The Pink - July 24, 2015 at 1:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 24, 2015 at 4:37 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Nope - July 24, 2015 at 5:03 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 24, 2015 at 7:50 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Redbeard The Pink - July 24, 2015 at 11:51 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 7:25 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Redbeard The Pink - July 26, 2015 at 1:59 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 26, 2015 at 3:30 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Redbeard The Pink - July 26, 2015 at 10:09 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 25, 2015 at 5:59 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 7:30 am
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 25, 2015 at 12:53 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Spacetime - July 25, 2015 at 9:38 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 25, 2015 at 9:52 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 10:01 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Iroscato - July 25, 2015 at 10:06 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Randy Carson - July 25, 2015 at 10:13 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by Iroscato - July 25, 2015 at 10:26 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 25, 2015 at 10:16 pm
RE: Hostage to fear - by robvalue - July 28, 2015 at 6:24 am

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