(January 26, 2018 at 9:59 am)alpha male Wrote:(January 26, 2018 at 9:50 am)Mathilda Wrote: In my experience it is the complete opposite.
In the BDSM scene (which includes Christian BDSM), female submissives are rare and male subs are a dime a dozen because there are so many of them. There are far more male subs than male doms.
And you can't explain this as being about sex because it doesn't happen in a BDSM club. It's about the need to dominate or to submit.
And you think your experience in the BDSM scene is representative of the species as a whole because...?
Or were you just making an aside?
When you start to explore consensual power exchange you notice the same dynamics happening throughout society, albeit most often in a non-consensual, implicit and unequal way.
The lack of equal rights in society will skew how easily someone can satisfy all their different needs but one thing is for sure, the urges to dominate and submit are inherent needs in both men and women.
There may be a more of a tendency for men to dominate for example, but in my experience working in a male dominated field they are also more easily dominated by other men in a power hierarchy in the workplace or an institution.
You also cannot argue that people who partake in BDSM are unrepresentative of the species as a whole. There is a broad spectrum of types who partake in these activities. Even right wing christians like you who refer to themselves as 'alpha males'.