RE: Implications of the Atheistic Position
July 30, 2012 at 10:44 am
(This post was last modified: July 30, 2012 at 10:47 am by Rhizomorph13.)
FallentoReason,
I don't really need to understand your personal situation to give you some general advice, which was what I was trying to do. You see, I am a 37 year old male and suffered greatly in the dating scene because I didn't listen to my friends who had been there. Some of their advice was terrible but the general thrust was spot on. You are not some special snowflake with some magical situation that will blow our minds; you fit within a bell curve of the same crap we have seen for many years. So I'm going to say a few things and then I will bow out unless you want some additional advice:
1. Yes, it totally could work out with the female in your situation; I HAVE seen the hail mary pass connect and weird situations have come together to form a relationship. I have also seen most of those hail mary connections devolve into an ugly break up (Like most relationships), so a 5% potential to connect yields a 95% to break up.
2. My advice would be to go out, do things you like, and find a female you are into; go up to her as soon as possible and express your interest specifically to exclude a friend relationship. Something like, "Hey, can I get your number, I'd like to ask you out on a date." Slip date in there so she knows you don't want to just be a friend. If she says she just wants to be friends tell her you have enough friends and you were hoping to date her then kindly move on being upbeat and nice. Seriously, if you really want a girlfriend, it is about chemistry so you need to play the field and meet many women until you find the right one.
3. You need to make her tell you "no" to a date, then move on once you get it. Take the path of least resistance and find someone who will chase you once you show interest in her. Be the candle not the moth.
Anyway, like NoMoreFaith said, "If you run into a wall, the solution is not to get up and run into it again." But it is your wall, your head, and your blood; so feel free to tell us all we just don't understand your situation.
P.S. I forgot the most important thing. DON'T be there for her, unless she seems to be chasing you.
I don't really need to understand your personal situation to give you some general advice, which was what I was trying to do. You see, I am a 37 year old male and suffered greatly in the dating scene because I didn't listen to my friends who had been there. Some of their advice was terrible but the general thrust was spot on. You are not some special snowflake with some magical situation that will blow our minds; you fit within a bell curve of the same crap we have seen for many years. So I'm going to say a few things and then I will bow out unless you want some additional advice:
1. Yes, it totally could work out with the female in your situation; I HAVE seen the hail mary pass connect and weird situations have come together to form a relationship. I have also seen most of those hail mary connections devolve into an ugly break up (Like most relationships), so a 5% potential to connect yields a 95% to break up.
2. My advice would be to go out, do things you like, and find a female you are into; go up to her as soon as possible and express your interest specifically to exclude a friend relationship. Something like, "Hey, can I get your number, I'd like to ask you out on a date." Slip date in there so she knows you don't want to just be a friend. If she says she just wants to be friends tell her you have enough friends and you were hoping to date her then kindly move on being upbeat and nice. Seriously, if you really want a girlfriend, it is about chemistry so you need to play the field and meet many women until you find the right one.
3. You need to make her tell you "no" to a date, then move on once you get it. Take the path of least resistance and find someone who will chase you once you show interest in her. Be the candle not the moth.
Anyway, like NoMoreFaith said, "If you run into a wall, the solution is not to get up and run into it again." But it is your wall, your head, and your blood; so feel free to tell us all we just don't understand your situation.
P.S. I forgot the most important thing. DON'T be there for her, unless she seems to be chasing you.
