RE: Implications of the Atheistic Position
July 31, 2012 at 3:08 pm
(This post was last modified: July 31, 2012 at 3:28 pm by Simon Moon.)
(July 30, 2012 at 11:00 am)FallentoReason Wrote: Play hard-to-get eh? She did say she didn't want to lose our friendship, which means I will still be seeing her. That allows for me to switch up the tactics.
It's not playing 'hard to get' that will attract her, it is demonstrating in (mostly) non-verbal ways that you are a high status male (high status in evolutionary terms).
The best way to attract this girl is for her to see you as in demand. If she sees you date several other women, her opinion of you will change. All the while, continue to hang with her, and tease her in humorous, lighthearted ways. I can guarantee that it is possible to get her to change seeing you as the 'nice guy friend', to an attractive male.
Women and men are attracted to each other for reasons that are due to our evolutionary past. We can't use logic or rationalize ourselves into being attracted to a particular member of the opposite sex.
Some of the best books I ever read that helped me with my dating were books on evolutionary psychology.
The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating - David M. Buss
The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature - Matt Ridley
The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human-Geoffrey F. Miller
You'd believe if you just opened your heart" is a terrible argument for religion. It's basically saying, "If you bias yourself enough, you can convince yourself that this is true." If religion were true, people wouldn't need faith to believe it -- it would be supported by good evidence.
