Maybe People Should Not Look Up To YouTube Atheist

[TaraJo]

This is the thread with the video I was talking about: http://atheistforums.org/thread-21040.html?

Yeah, saw it. It does bring up some interesting subject matter that it would be interesting to talk about in a level and reasonable discussion, but it's so difficult.

Can people take steps to avoid being raped? Absolutely. It's why I don't go to parties with people I barely know and get wasted. It's why I try to stay aware of my surroundings. It's why I try to associate myself with fairly stable people. And it seems to have worked since I haven't really been the victim of rape (unless you're going to expand and dilute the definition of 'rape,' under which circumstances it goes into the boy crying wolf territory again).

And, yet, if ever I were to mention one of these things that could be done to avoid being raped, I'm accused of vicim blaming or that I'm saying the victim deserved it.

I had a friend a few years ago who liked to go to the bar on Friday and/or Saturday nights, dance, party and get drunk. She always went there alone and she didn't keep an eye on her drink. Eventually she was drugged and raped. No, she didn't deserve it, but afterwards, she continued to go to the same bars, she continue to go alone and she still didn't keep an eye on her drink. It wouldn't have been victim blaming for me to point out the things she could do to keep herself safe; in fact, I would be a terrible friend if I didn't poin those things out in an effort to keep her safe.