Parents

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And hat is something very traumatic?

Trauma isn't the same for everyone. Individuals have different coping mechanisms, some of which are better than others at resolving traumatic experiences. People also have differing natural resilience. This makes what I find traumatic different from what you may find traumatic, but just because you don't find my trauma to be "traumatic enough" doesn't mean that I'm capable of coping with it on my own (not saying you're "dissing" my trauma, just explaining). Basically, trauma can be anything from being neglected as a child to living through a natural disaster, from being raped to being in a car accident. Anything that shakes one's sense of safety or trust has the potential to be traumatic. It's annoying that there's not a cut off or a set criteria, but it's really different for each individual.

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My parents accepted in time that they were wrong to some extent and asked for forgiveness and a releationship with me.

I can only releate to you through my parents expiriences although I do not fully understand them.
Both my grandparents were cruel people who were extremly brutal with my parents (my german granddad actualy was a nazi)
Worst of all, neighter actualy accepted being wrong and feeling sorry in any way.
My english granddad actualy tried to in instruct my dad on how to raise me insisting he didnt give me a beating often enought.

Yet my parents never really managed to get lose of them, especialy my mother.

I came to the conclusion that these people were just "people of their time" and that for them understanding how modern people think and work isnt really possible.
And therefor it isnt always possible for them to notice when something they did was actualy wrong.

Or maybe your grandparents are being complete dipshits to you