Not coming out, but not hiding it anymore

[Gilgamesh]

thumbs this up if u cry every time

[Fruity]

Minimalist wrote:

As long as she isn't a Mexican she'll be fine.

During the cultural diversity activity that we did I was way in the back because:
I am Mexican (through my mom), my parents did not go to college (I'm first generation), I am atheist, I'm bisexual, I changed schools between 17 and 20 times by the time I hit my second college (number depends on counting same school return or not), and I'm a liberal living in a conservative state. But I'm fine.

cneron wrote:

Not too beautiful at the moment. Granite Mountain is sort of on fire presently.

Sorry to hear. I guess right now our sand seems nice and dandy.



To everybody else:

I understand why you think it's not necessary to come out if I'm married. I really do get it. That's why I didn't do it before, and am not strictly doing it right now. I'm just not being a liar anymore. I have reasons to be truthful now:
1. It was wrong to let her take the heat and just stand there doing nothing. It's like if I deny I'm atheist when another atheist is being bullied. It's just wrong.
2. I am married, but that doesn't mean I stop being myself.

We are not so traditional, per se. We had a guest over before. That didn't go well because he felt jealous after. Haven't done that since. I wouldn't do something that I know hurts him. As long as I have the ability to keep us together, oh trust me, I'll keep us together. I'll do anything in my power to make us stick. I don't care how bisexual my nature is, as long as I'm with him there will be no woman (other than the ones we watch together on TV lol). However, our relationship has more downs than ups and I am never sure when the bubble will burst again. If it bursts, I want to remember who I am. I don't want to be so far away that it takes me the longest time to find myself again. This is who I am regardless of who I'm with. This is my truth. He met me this way (except for the atheist part). So, yes, I'm married. No, I'm not waving my bisexuality around like a flag. I am Ivy, mother of two, married to my man, atheist, bisexual woman proud of myself for sure. He can stand next to me, I'll stay. He can leave, and I will continue to be me. That I stand up for who I am because I refuse to be a coward when I know others have to step it up should not be a hazard. Being bisexual does not mean you need a man and a woman in your life to be happy. All I need is one person. Sometimes I get asked if "one part of me is satisfied but the other isn't". That's not the case. I'm with him, I plan on staying with him as long as we can. Our relationship issues actually are far from anything related to my bisexuality. Its more of a personality/compatibility thing. As far as I know, I can deal with that. I'm superwoman So, anyway, yeah, I'm married. No, my sexuality isn't people's business. I'm with him and I don't need to do this for relationship purposes, since I have somebody. I just feel this loyalty thing tugging at me and it's not just to others out there facing this, it's also to the conservation of myself.

Thank you for all your responses. You guys are awesome

[littleendian]

I'm also married and Bi. I guess there are a lot of us out there.

@2:30:
"so I went through this whole thing am i straight? Am i gay? And then i realized, im just slutty."

[Fruity]

lol that video was great.

[Rahul]

We are not so traditional, per se. We had a guest over before. That didn't go well because he felt jealous after.

??

That's kind of baffling. How could he feel jealous if another penis wasn't involved?

I've given my wife the greenlight on hooking up with a woman if she wants. If it's not another guy I wouldn't feel like it was cheating.

Everyone's different I guess.

[Tonus]

I don't feel excited, to be honest. I'm content and feel that it was the right thing to do.

That sounds about right. But also, remember that the reason that you kept it secret for so long isn't because something is wrong with you. Misdirected fear and shame are potent weapons in the arsenal of the bigot.

[Fruity]

Rahul wrote:

I've given my wife the greenlight on hooking up with a woman if she wants. If it's not another guy I wouldn't feel like it was cheating.

Rahul, you're awesome BUT, if someone doesn't have that same green light, it would be cheating. Since she has the green light, it wouldn't. In my case, I have a red light. A HUGE red light. The size of the sun. lol

Tonus wrote:

That sounds about right. But also, remember that the reason that you kept it secret for so long isn't because something is wrong with you. Misdirected fear and shame are potent weapons in the arsenal of the bigot.

I'd like to use that as a favorite quote

[Minimalist]

Reminds me of.......

[Tonus]

I'd like to use that as a favorite quote

I guess it's appropriate to this topic to respond: feel free.

[TaraJo]

Welcome out of the closet. It's nice out here on this side, isn't it?

I guess I'm out, I just try not to make a big deal out of it. It's like, if it comes up, I won't hide from people but I won't go out of my way to advertise that I'm trans, either. That seems to work for most other people, too: if they don't want to talk about it, they don't have to but if they do have questions, I'm willing to answer them.