What's everyone up to right now?

[robvalue]

What!? Seriously?

[Regina]

My viewpoint: if you have a strong preference, state what you do want, not what you don't.  The latter is just classless and rude - at best.

That's better, I just see going into preferences as a bit much for the very first thing you tell people. It's not like I don't have my own preferences, I think everyone does, but I don't get the bluntness and automatically writing people off before you've even seen what they look like. I'm actually turned off when I see it even if I'm not in the "No [X]" group myself.

@Alex K - I have absolutely no idea. Sick people. I am SO careful with sex, I shake my head at people who just carelessly wave it around, especially gays since we're so high-risk.

[SteelCurtain]

If you proudly display douchebags of Grindr on your profile (unless that was a stamp from where you got these) then you warned everyone, right?

[Regina]

If you proudly display douchebags of Grindr on your profile (unless that was a stamp from where you got these) then you warned everyone, right?

No it's a stamp someone else put on haha. People rip into these types of men all the time, hence the visceral "no it's just a preference!" backlash.

[Regina]

So I was in Burger King earlier.

I got my meal, went to sit down. The table I ended up sitting at was a 4 seater, which had a 2-seater which had been moved to make it a 6-seater. The Burger King was empty so there were plenty of other seats around, that's important.

I'm probably half way through my meal, when suddenly this guy, about the same age as me, comes and sits at the table I was at.

I didn't openly react, but in my mind I was thinking "why has he sat here? Does he want to... yknow... talk?" This is bizarre.

So anyway after 5 minutes of awkward silence I get up to put my rubbish in the bin, go back to the table to collect my bag and my drink, then walk out. As I'm walking away, I'm thinking...

Why the fuck, do we not talk to people in public? This is such a British thing. Make eye contact, we look away awkwardly. Someone sits by you in a restaurant or on a train, we awkwardly sit there like "ew, a person!". I actually hate it, I hate that we're like that, but it's engrained on my psychology by this point that it's hard to break it, or not worry that I'm annoying an equally aspergers person by being sociable.

I don't feel it when I'm abroad either. Other nationalities actually do talk some, there isn't that awkwardness, and I'm fine I talk then. So it's not me, it is this country. Well it's partly me I guess, since I'm part of it.

[The Valkyrie]

So I was in Burger King earlier.

I got my meal, went to sit down. The table I ended up sitting at was a 4 seater, which had a 2-seater which had been moved to make it a 6-seater. The Burger King was empty so there were plenty of other seats around, that's important.

I'm probably half way through my meal, when suddenly this guy, about the same age as me, comes and sits at the table I was at.

I didn't openly react, but in my mind I was thinking "why has he sat here? Does he want to... yknow... talk?" This is bizarre.

So anyway after 5 minutes of awkward silence I get up to put my rubbish in the bin, go back to the table to collect my bag and my drink, then walk out. As I'm walking away, I'm thinking...

Why the fuck, do we not talk to people in public? This is such a British thing. Make eye contact, we look away awkwardly. Someone sits by you in a restaurant or on a train, we awkwardly sit there like "ew, a person!". I actually hate it, I hate that we're like that, but it's engrained on my psychology by this point that it's hard to break it, or not worry that I'm annoying an equally aspergers person by being sociable.

I don't feel it when I'm abroad either. Other nationalities actually do talk some, there isn't that awkwardness, and I'm fine I talk then. So it's not me, it is this country. Well it's partly me I guess, since I'm part of it.

I get funny looks from Kiwis when they hear my accent.  It's like, "Ew, an Aussie!"

[SteelCurtain]

I feel that all the time also. I feel like if I let a certain amount of time pass, then it's too awkward to say anything thereafter.

It happens all the time when guys come in for work in the morning at the end of my shift. Two guys sit in my cubicle cluster, and I talk to them regularly, but if I'm busy and don't say hi for a couple of minutes, then I feel too weird to say hi, and I just leave when it's time to go home. It's weird and I'm such an outgoing person, I talk to anyone who wants to talk.

Maybe it's the cell phone culture. I wonder if I bridge over into not talking to people when they're on their computers, too.

[Regina]

I get funny looks from Kiwis when they hear my accent.  It's like, "Ew, an Aussie!"

Is there rivalry there? Between those countries? I don't know so much about that part of the world

But the accents sound very similar to me haha, I guess not so much to yourself if you're more familiar with them.

@SC - I definitely think phones have a lot to answer for. I hate when I'm trying to talk to someone and their face is glued to their phone. Hello, eyes up, I'm here.

[The Valkyrie]

I get funny looks from Kiwis when they hear my accent.  It's like, "Ew, an Aussie!"

Is there rivalry there? Between those countries? I don't know so much about that part of the world

But the accents sound very similar to me haha, I guess not so much to yourself if you're more familiar with them.

@SC - I definitely think phones have a lot to answer for. I hate when I'm trying to talk to someone and their face is glued to their phone. Hello, eyes up, I'm here.

Oh, strong rivalries.

I'm that rather rare thing: an Aussie living in NZ.  Whereas there are hundreds of thousands of Kiwis in Oz.

[Regina]

NZ probably appeals to me more apart from the weather (I like it hot like Oz). I wouldn't be able to handle the spiders in Australia

*runs before some heartless bastards starts with the spidre gifs*