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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 10:50 am
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(February 24, 2014 at 9:43 am)leodeo Wrote: The older I get the more I'm starting to hate people in general ...
Tell me about it. They're always whining and complaining about petty things and are overly concerned with other people's perceptions.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 11:11 am
Dogs are absolutely the best.
That's a starting point! Get involved in your local dog rescue! Not only do you get to do some good, but you'll meet some new people and dog people are (by and large) the best. I volunteer for Middle Tennessee Golden Retriever Rescue, and I have met some of the coolest people ever!
Listen, man, you are in the same spot that 98% of adult males are in in their late adolescence. 19-27ish is tough. Especially if you haven't fully figured things out and you are not where you want to be. The trick is to find the things you do love and go at it hard. Define what you want and go get it. The hardest part is getting started. Believe me.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 11:25 am
Sure, so long as you like them with a few warts.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 11:27 am
You might find it easier to accept other people's faults when you realize that you probably annoy the shit out of other people too.
It's a great perspective builder.
After that, it's simply learning to weigh the good things about a person against the bad things about them and figuring out where the scales tip.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 2:26 pm
Perfect? probably not, but you could probably get pretty close to that.
I've never personally had a friend who didn't betray me or my trust somehow. True friends are hard to come by.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 2:31 pm
(February 24, 2014 at 9:43 am)leodeo Wrote: The older I get the more I'm starting to hate people in general The world is your front lawn, eh?
I don't think there are perfect friends. You may occasionally have a friend who seems perfect, but it won't last. Learn to enjoy the company of others, warts and all, or get used to moments of quiet contemplation. Because you'll be doing a lot of it.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 3:10 pm
(February 24, 2014 at 2:31 pm)Tonus Wrote: You may occasionally have a friend who seems perfect, but it won't last.
"Falling in like," or "falling in love," with someone always makes them seem perfect. Until the first fart, at least.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 6:29 pm
(February 24, 2014 at 9:43 am)leodeo Wrote: seems like with all my friends offline - every single person has something that i hate so much it drives me crazy
ie: my car friend he's okay but i hate how he is always bragging about stuff
and my closest friend now is pretty supportive but he always has this 'holy' attitude (he's a theist) and it just makes me want to smack him....ie: the other day we were walking and I saw a riced out cavalier and I just casually said, "those rims look ridiculous" and he was all like "well I don't know because I don't judge people" - I'm a big supporter of being nonjudgmental, but seems like these days you can't even tell your friend what you think of a car that's driving by :/
btw those kind of christians piss me off the most, the ones that believe they are hand chosen by god to come to this world and spread their bullshit. I see them on christian forums with sigs that say stuff like "Soldier of heaven deployed to Earth" and the ones with the armored knights with a cross as if they are God's personal knights or something.
The older I get the more I'm starting to hate people in general (southpark called it cynicism or ass burgers :/) Dogs are the best tbh. (Golden Retrievers)
I know exactly what you mean, other guys annoy the fuck out of me unless its just casual talking in work.
Female friends on the other hand I can handle.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 24, 2014 at 6:35 pm
My wife is my perfect friend.
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RE: is there such thing as a perfect friend?
February 26, 2014 at 8:02 am
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(February 24, 2014 at 6:35 pm)Mr. Moncrieff Wrote: My wife is my perfect friend.
ya i agree with this post and the others that say people suck but i believe after i die i will be in a 'heaven' where ill have a girlfriend who is perfect and friends who i get along with 100%.
and btw now that i look back, i have met 2 people in my life who I think are perfect friends in the sense that they were always supportive and nice, to everyone no matter what. One I keep in touch with online but don't get to chat very much, the other I lost contact with.
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