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Dealing with Religious Family
January 13, 2015 at 6:57 pm
Hey,
I was curious to know how many people on this forum have ever had to clash and/or deal with family members as a result of deciding to not fallow in the comman faith of them.
Like in my case,
I was raised as a Baptist Christian and my family is really big on god. Now and days, however, I've begone questioning whether he was the loving god people made him out to be, and whether he even exists (thanks to having discussions and debates with a good friend of myn).
It seemed the more I learned it became harder and harder to logicly and morally defend what I believed. Even if he did exist, in my views, I would never worship him again because I do not believe he is worthy of my praise nore has the right to judge my actions after everything he did in the Bible. Damning people to hell souly on the basis of beliefs is not the work of a loving being...but an oppresor.
But anywho, I digressed...
Its hard having to keep what I truely believe secret for fear of constant BS and lectures. Was just wondering if anyone has ever had experiences similar to this?
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 13, 2015 at 7:16 pm
Well, I have. Sort of. I "came out" as agnostic to my mom yesterday, but she was just very upset and felt hurt. But, hey, I have to do pretty much what she says, as I'm 13, and your parents give you a roof over your head, food, etc. My mom is genuinely a good mother; but I'm at a Catholic school, and there's quite a lot of BS there, so I sympathize with you.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 13, 2015 at 10:17 pm
More or less with me it was emotional abuse but i had to learn to get over it.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 3:04 am
(January 13, 2015 at 6:57 pm)wolfclan96 Wrote: Hey,
I was curious to know how many people on this forum have ever had to clash and/or deal with family members as a result of deciding to not fallow in the comman faith of them.
Like in my case,
I was raised as a Baptist Christian and my family is really big on god. Now and days, however, I've begone questioning whether he was the loving god people made him out to be, and whether he even exists (thanks to having discussions and debates with a good friend of myn).
It seemed the more I learned it became harder and harder to logicly and morally defend what I believed. Even if he did exist, in my views, I would never worship him again because I do not believe he is worthy of my praise nore has the right to judge my actions after everything he did in the Bible. Damning people to hell souly on the basis of beliefs is not the work of a loving being...but an oppresor.
But anywho, I digressed...
Its hard having to keep what I truely believe secret for fear of constant BS and lectures. Was just wondering if anyone has ever had experiences similar to this?
What was it you believed, you never said you were a Christian, being raised in a baptist church doesn't make one a Christian, it only makes you one of millions who were raised in a Baptist church. Do you know exactly what the scriptures teach, it sounds like you do not, or you wouldn't have had to argue with a friend about God, that would been something you would do with yourself if you knew what the scriptures said.
Welcome to the forum,
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 3:13 am
I have been lucky enough that this wasn't a problem for me as just about everyone I've known is atheist (whether they classify themselves that way or not). But I've listened to hundreds of hours of the atheist experience, and spent a few months on this forum now, and it is a very common problem.
In my opinion, it comes down to parents associating themselves so much with their religion to the point where they can't distinguish it from themselves. So leaving the faith is to somehow insult them. The advice I always give is to try to make clear it's the personal beliefs that have changed, not the person, and that you are not rejecting them as a person either, just not agreeing with their beliefs. I find it shocking that so many parents expect their kids to just think the way they do, and get upset when they don't. Especially when it comes to fairy stories.
But it sounds like you have a middle ground case, they didn't take it great, but they didn't go totally mental. In extreme cases people are forced into church and relentlessly bullied until they "believe" again, or even disowned by families.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 9:05 am
(This post was last modified: January 14, 2015 at 9:06 am by wolfclan96.)
(January 14, 2015 at 3:04 am)Godschild Wrote: What was it you believed, you never said you were a Christian, being raised in a baptist church doesn't make one a Christian, it only makes you one of millions who were raised in a Baptist church. Do you know exactly what the scriptures teach, it sounds like you do not, or you wouldn't have had to argue with a friend about God, that would been something you would do with yourself if you knew what the scriptures said.
Welcome to the forum,
GC
Sorry for not being more clearer. For the longest time I was a Christian at heart, having believed what I heard in church and what not. What I mean about debates with the friend was more of him speaking his two cents on the matter that were just simply unarguable.
You are right of me not being completely familure with scripture, though I have read a good bit it at very least.
To be completely honest I probably just fallowed because I was never really taught anything else and felt it was right.
...then I grew up.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 10:06 am
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Yeah, you're gonna get told you "weren't a true Christian" quite a bit. Theists live and breathe logical fallacies. Fact is, the serious atheist has usually studied the bible longer and harder than the average christian. It's often the catalysing factor.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 10:12 am
Christians are not perfect, many are terrible people. I think the same thing can be said for any group.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 11:50 am
(This post was last modified: January 14, 2015 at 12:02 pm by watchamadoodle.)
@ wolfclan96, how much does your family already know about your skepticism?
Can you simply keep your skepticism private?
Are you expected to attend church, donate money, etc. as an obligation of identifying as a Christian?
I'm trying to solve the same problem in my life. My mother and I went to a evening service at the Catholic church a week ago. That was my first time in church for several years, and I enjoyed it. Being a "cultural Christian" might work for me. Ironically church seems more tolerable when I expect nothing.
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RE: Dealing with Religious Family
January 14, 2015 at 12:18 pm
Quote:What was it you believed, you never said you were a Christian, being raised in a baptist church doesn't make one a Christian
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