Your love song/theme

[dahrling]

I'm rarely serious except about politics,  religion, and lunatics with guns...  In uniform or not.

Well, I think seriousness is, for the most part, overrated (: 
although I really admire people who are serious 100% of the time and sometimes I wish I could be like that... but the silliness just lives within me and it must come out

[Jericho]

So, about these love songs. Is it odd that I think Howie Day's songs are pretty good love songs?

[Ben Davis]

Luther Vandross - Never Too Much

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[Cato]

Why do I get the feeling this is more of a "lustful" song? Maybe it's the title? 

Love and lust. One without the other is a tragic waste.

[dahrling]

So, about these love songs.  Is it odd that I think Howie Day's songs are pretty good love songs?

Google will have to aid me, I have never heard of a Howie Day although that sounds like the name of a country music singer to me  

Luther Vandross - Never Too Much

 
This song is incredibly beautiful   



I also love his duet with Mariah Carey (Endless Love)  

Why do I get the feeling this is more of a "lustful" song? Maybe it's the title?  

Love and lust. One without the other is a tragic waste.

"Lust is temporary, romance can be nice, but love is the most important thing of all. Because without love, lust and romance will always be short-lived."
Danielle Steel my guilty pleasure, the writer of many beautiful and unrealistic love stories

[Pyrrho]

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The answer to the question of the opening post is "no."  But looking at this thread made me think of this:

I guess you're not a romantic 
Better for you, less expectations 
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Actually, I am romantic.  I am happily married, and have been for over 20 years.  I regard my choice of wife as the best decision I ever made.  It is just that I do not associate love and romance with a particular song.

As for the song to which I linked, I did not think of it from reading your opening post, but from looking at responses that you got from others, at least one of which involves a song that is more sexually suggestive than suggestive of romance or love.


My advice, not that you have asked me for it, is to find someone who you like platonically, as a friend, and then, after the friendship is solid, develop the relationship into romance.  Sexual attraction, by itself, is lust, not romance or love, and so that is not going to be a reliable way to find love.  But friendship is a kind of love, and so going from friendship to romantic love is a smaller step.  This will also serve you well if you marry (or have a roughly equivalent relationship), because even if you have sex 4 hours a day, you are not having sex 20 hours a day, and you need to get along during those 20 hours or your marriage is not likely to last.

[Cato]

"Lust is temporary, romance can be nice, but love is the most important thing of all. Because without love, lust and romance will always be short-lived."
Danielle Steel my guilty pleasure, the writer of many beautiful and unrealistic love stories

"Love without lust is fucking boring."
- Cato

Edit: Or 'boring fucking'.

[dahrling]

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I guess you're not a romantic 
Better for you, less expectations 
...

Actually, I am romantic.  I am happily married, and have been for over 20 years.  I regard my choice of wife as the best decision I ever made.  It is just that I do not associate love and romance with a particular song.

As for the song to which I linked, I did not think of it from reading your opening post, but from looking at responses that you got from others, at least one of which involves a song that is more sexually suggestive than suggestive of romance or love.


My advice, not that you have asked me for it, is to find someone who you like platonically, as a friend, and then, after the friendship is solid, develop the relationship into romance.  Sexual attraction, by itself, is lust, not romance or love, and so that is not going to be a reliable way to find love.  But friendship is a kind of love, and so going from friendship to romantic love is a smaller step.  This will also serve you well if you marry (or have a roughly equivalent relationship), because even if you have sex 4 hours a day, you are not having sex 20 hours a day, and you need to get along during those 20 hours or your marriage is not likely to last.

I'm always seeking advice 
I think that the idea of a friendship blossoming into romance is very beautiful   
The problem is that many times one of the two people in said friendship will develop these feelings first and the other one will take more time or not develop romantic feelings for their friend at all and their friendship can be ruined. 
I prefer to put friendships before romance   

But I don't really believe one can choose who to fall in love with. I still think that depends on many outside factors beyond our control. 

[AFTT47]

Just One More Minute - Weird Al Yankovic

[Pyrrho]

Actually, I am romantic.  I am happily married, and have been for over 20 years.  I regard my choice of wife as the best decision I ever made.  It is just that I do not associate love and romance with a particular song.

As for the song to which I linked, I did not think of it from reading your opening post, but from looking at responses that you got from others, at least one of which involves a song that is more sexually suggestive than suggestive of romance or love.


My advice, not that you have asked me for it, is to find someone who you like platonically, as a friend, and then, after the friendship is solid, develop the relationship into romance.  Sexual attraction, by itself, is lust, not romance or love, and so that is not going to be a reliable way to find love.  But friendship is a kind of love, and so going from friendship to romantic love is a smaller step.  This will also serve you well if you marry (or have a roughly equivalent relationship), because even if you have sex 4 hours a day, you are not having sex 20 hours a day, and you need to get along during those 20 hours or your marriage is not likely to last.

I'm always seeking advice 
I think that the idea of a friendship blossoming into romance is very beautiful   
The problem is that many times one of the two people in said friendship will develop these feelings first and the other one will take more time or not develop romantic feelings for their friend at all and their friendship can be ruined. 
I prefer to put friendships before romance   

But I don't really believe one can choose who to fall in love with. I still think that depends on many outside factors beyond our control. 

In my case, my wife and I were friends for about a year before we decided to add romance to the relationship.  We were best friends at the time.  About a year later, we were married, and have been happy together ever since.

If one of us had not been ready for romance, we simply would have stayed friends.  I personally think people worry too much about damaging their friendships with romance.  Unless one is a jerk to one's romantic partner (which is really a contradiction in terms, as being a jerk isn't romantic), I don't see why it should ruin anything.