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Poll: What is more important to you?
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Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
#41
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
(August 4, 2015 at 6:09 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:
(August 4, 2015 at 5:53 pm)lkingpinl Wrote: Truth.

I think the black eyed peas said it best:

"The truth is kept secret, its swept under the rug, if you never know truth, then you never know love"

True love does not exist in the absence of judgment, true love only exists in the presence of it.  The words “I love you” are meaningful to you only if the person who speaks them truly knows you.

I agree with this, but would say that because of it, the 2 are 1 and the same. Shy


The metric for truth in matters empirical can never verify the ruling of the heart.  They really are equals.

I like the way cummings put it:  

"While you and i have lips and voices which
are for kissing and to sing with
who cares if some oneeyed son of a bitch
invents an instrument to measure Spring with?"

From his "voices to voices, lip to lip"




But cummings clearly would put the heart in the first position, going further than I will.

since feeling is first 

since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;

wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the world

my blood approves,
and kisses are better fate
than wisdom
lady i swear by all flowers. Don't cry
—the best gesture of my brain is less than
your eyelids' flutter which says

we are for each other: then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life's not a paragraph

And death i think is no parenthesis



^So unfortunate that he was probably a theist.  More evidence:



down with hell and heaven

and all the religious fuss

infinity pleased our parents

one inch looks good to us


You have to understand that that this is delivered as mockery, not of atheism per se, but of people attempting to be overly rational and, as a result, becoming mechanical, less than human and finally uninteresting.




since feeling is first
who pays any attention 
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;
wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the world

my blood approves,
and kisses are a better fate
than wisdom
lady I swear by all flowers. Don't cry
-the best gesture of my brain is less than
your eyelids' flutter which says

we are for each other: then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life's not a paragraph

And death i think is no parenthesis
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#42
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
Truth, by far. I'm not real obsessed with family, like some, whether it be my born family or any family I man (I don't). So, love is kind of...I don't know...unremarkable to me.

As well, I am developmentally impaired from my life with spina bifida. People are afraid to tell disabled folks the truth about them. It'a always "inspirational" this and "brave" that. If we do something wrong or otherwise bad, we aren't told, sometimes, and therefore grow up to do or see things incorrectly.
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
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#43
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
Two years ago I would have said there can be truth without love, but no real love without truth.   Now I've found an exception in a rather forceful way.

The exception is dementia.  If you love someone with dementia and for me right now that's both my mother-in-law and my step-father, the truth of what they believe is often irrelevant and correcting them cruel.  They will believe something else in ten minutes anyway.  And yet the basic personality that I know and love is remarkably durable.  And my mother still loves her husband, though he's asked her who she is a couple times now, and my father-in-law still loves his wife though occasionally she accuses him of neglecting her because he doesn't kill that French rapist in the backyard hankering for her 75 year old body.  I still love all of them.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god.  If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
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#44
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
False dichotomy -- one can have both truth and love in one's life. Both love and truth cut both ways, giving pleasure and pain.

You may as well ask, "Mayonnaise, or eight-cylinder engines?"

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#45
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
Truth. There's no meaning or value to anything without it.
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#46
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
Wow, no one voted "Love" xD
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
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#47
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
(August 4, 2015 at 11:30 pm)Kitan Wrote: Wow, no one voted "Love" xD

Because Love Stinks! Tongue

Metis did though.
Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.' -Isaac Asimov-
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#48
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
(August 4, 2015 at 11:56 pm)Salacious B. Crumb Wrote:
(August 4, 2015 at 11:30 pm)Kitan Wrote: Wow, no one voted "Love" xD

Because Love Stinks! Tongue

Metis did though.

So did ee cummings.
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#49
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
(August 5, 2015 at 12:33 am)Whateverist the White Wrote:
(August 4, 2015 at 11:56 pm)Salacious B. Crumb Wrote: Because Love Stinks! Tongue

Metis did though.

So did ee cummings.

It sure seemed like it. (Thanks for sharing those poems)

And the - unfortunately he was probably a theist - thing was funny. I looked on Wiki, it says he was a unitarian and a taoist. That fool must have been high on peyote or something!
Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.' -Isaac Asimov-
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#50
RE: Truth or Love?.. What Matters to you Most?
(August 5, 2015 at 1:10 am)Salacious B. Crumb Wrote:
(August 5, 2015 at 12:33 am)Whateverist the White Wrote: So did ee cummings.

I looked on Wiki, it says he was a unitarian and a taoist. 

That fits.  Like I say, my sense is it isn't god belief as such that he is in favor of so much as openness to wonder that he is signing off on.  I like a lot of his work.
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