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Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 7:41 pm
(This post was last modified: July 21, 2015 at 7:50 pm by dyresand.)
To keep this post short i'll just say this.
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But i'm ugly by any means its just holding down a relationship and i do put effort forward i don't know.
Just maybe i'm just one of those people who fall into the forever alone statistics. Who knows i have friends
and this is just something i had in the back of my mind for awhile now. I mean i'm happy for my friends
they are getting married having a family but my trade off i'm going to school for something i love and enjoy doing
so yeah. That's about that i suppose.
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 7:59 pm
Dyres, you're pretty young, no?
Why would you give up now?
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:09 pm
OP, did someone hijack your account?
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:20 pm
Drys, I have a hard time following you, but I think I get what you're saying.
The fact that you're having these feelings means you'll keep fervently looking. You may not find your SO as soon as you'd like, but that will only make you look harder. And looking is all you need.
And when she/he breaks your heart and leaves you with nothing, not even an interest in findig someone, that's when you can safely say you're meant to be alone. Lol But you're a long ways from there, bud.
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:
"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."
For context, this is the previous verse:
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:28 pm
(July 21, 2015 at 8:20 pm)Exian Wrote: Drys, I have a hard time following you, but I think I get what you're saying.
The fact that you're having these feelings means you'll keep fervently looking. You may not find your SO as soon as you'd like, but that will only make you look harder. And looking is all you need.
And when she/he breaks your heart and leaves you with nothing, not even an interest in findig someone, that's when you can safely say you're meant to be alone. Lol But you're a long ways from there, bud.
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:38 pm
You know it's true!
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:
"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."
For context, this is the previous verse:
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:44 pm
(July 21, 2015 at 8:09 pm)ignoramus Wrote: OP, did someone hijack your account?
Um no why?
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:46 pm
(July 21, 2015 at 8:20 pm)Exian Wrote: Drys, I have a hard time following you, but I think I get what you're saying.
The fact that you're having these feelings means you'll keep fervently looking. You may not find your SO as soon as you'd like, but that will only make you look harder. And looking is all you need.
And when she/he breaks your heart and leaves you with nothing, not even an interest in findig someone, that's when you can safely say you're meant to be alone. Lol But you're a long ways from there, bud.
This had me thinking at my last break up its like... wait why the fuck am i trying anymore.
More or less its like you know i could waste my life looking or i could be doing things i want to.
I chose have fun and do things you like road rather than a drama filled one.
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:55 pm
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(July 21, 2015 at 8:46 pm)dyresand Wrote: (July 21, 2015 at 8:20 pm)Exian Wrote: Drys, I have a hard time following you, but I think I get what you're saying.
The fact that you're having these feelings means you'll keep fervently looking. You may not find your SO as soon as you'd like, but that will only make you look harder. And looking is all you need.
And when she/he breaks your heart and leaves you with nothing, not even an interest in findig someone, that's when you can safely say you're meant to be alone. Lol But you're a long ways from there, bud.
This had me thinking at my last break up its like... wait why the fuck am i trying anymore.
More or less its like you know i could waste my life looking or i could be doing things i want to.
I chose have fun and do things you like road rather than a drama filled one.
And what's to say you won't find someone doing the things you enjoy? Surely the odds are you're more likely to meet someone you hit off with at a venue with like minded people?
You might be surprised, sometimes relationships can crop up when you least expect them. While I was studying I worked part time at a bookstore owned by ultra-conservative Christians and ended up after a few months into it slowly teasing their son and now also my partner out of the closet, which they're still mad over and cost me a pretty good student job. 
It may sound strange but don't worry so much about it, sure dating sites are always an option but you might find such opportunities pop up of their own accord. If you're comfortable in how you are the rest follows, and while it might not even seem a good idea you may well still want to chase it up anyway.
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RE: Coming to terms with not finding romantic love
July 21, 2015 at 8:59 pm
(This post was last modified: July 21, 2015 at 9:08 pm by Regina.)
I actually think looking for love makes it harder to find, because you're forcing it.
I said this in another post on a similar thread on this forum a while ago, but I'll repeat because it's relevant here. If you walk into the situation with your cards on the table making it clear you want a relationship, it won't happen. People are turned off by that, they just want to enjoy getting to know you and then, if it feels right, a relationship will happen naturally. Building a relationship takes time, you don't just meet someone, have 5 dates and call it love. It's a long match-making process and it takes time.
I'm 21 and I've never had a serious relationship. I dated guy after guy after guy looking for a relationship until what I just said hit me; people are turned off by the thought of commitment, they're not going to commit to something when they barely know you. You have to get to know people and see if you are compatible before anything like that is going to happen.
They're also turned off by baggage and lack of confidence. Nobody wants a relationship with someone they have to babysit and piece together, it's a romantic thought that we see in movies but it doesn't happen in real life. In reality, people are drawn to confident people who have their shit together.
I'm not really looking for a relationship now, because I got fed up of looking and I just want to work on myself and enjoy being free and un-attached. The irony... everyone suddenly took interest again once I started doing that, and it's because me being emotionally unavailable and focusing on myself is a more attractive me than a desperate clingy me.
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