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Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
#51
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 1:30 am)SnakeOilWarrior Wrote: And, I'm the guy who's gonna get shot alongside the road some day because I tend not to just drive past a motorist in trouble unless they obviously have help there already.

Same here, I will stop to help unless i've got a schedule I must keep.

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#52
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 12:54 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Online you return rudeness for rudeness? lol  The beauty of online, is with a few clicks, you can place someone on ignore.
Too bad there is no magical button like this IRL. Big Grin

Maybe I'm a masochist, but I don't put people on ignore, generally. I would rather read what is being said and reply to it ... many times even rude folks have good points. So long as they're polite to me, nothing untoward occurs.

IRL, there is a button that does this, for me, in most cases. I go for a walk or a drive and get the hell away from the person bugging me.

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#53
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 1:18 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Same here, I will stop to help unless i've got a schedule I must keep.

But that's a different question entirely. I always stop when someone seems to be in need and I certainly don't go by when someone's lying in the streets. Don't laugh, that actually happens, more often than you would think.

But that doesn't change the fact that I don't play nice with rude idiots.
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#54
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 30, 2015 at 11:09 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Are you nice to people who aren't nice to you (first) or are you nice to all people? In other words, are you a 'give what you have received' type of person? Just curious.

I tend to treat everyone well, but if someone disrespects me in some way, or devalues my friendship, I won't treat them in the same way, but I may just back away, and keep my distance. I don't believe you need to stoop to someone's level, or seek revenge simply because they have wronged you. But, just curious how you all approach things like this?

I would say I'm exactly the same way.  The default position is nice to all without passing judgment.  However, once I'm disrespected, I just keep my distance.  I've learned you will never get everyone to like or respect you and that's ok.
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#55
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 1:23 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote:
(August 31, 2015 at 12:54 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Online you return rudeness for rudeness? lol  The beauty of online, is with a few clicks, you can place someone on ignore.
Too bad there is no magical button like this IRL. Big Grin

Maybe I'm a masochist, but I don't put people on ignore, generally. I would rather read what is being said and reply to it ... many times even rude folks have good points. So long as they're polite  to me, nothing untoward occurs.

IRL, there is a button that does this, for me, in most cases. I go for a walk or a drive and get the hell away from the person bugging me.

The only time I put people on ignore is if they are sending me rude pm’s, then the ignore feature blocks them from sending anything private to me.

I haven’t had to do that in quite some time.  Shy
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#56
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
I am not a vengeful person. While I do not play nice with bad claims or religious bigotry on a political level, if someone at a personal level is sucking the life out of me, I simply part company.
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#57
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 2:37 pm)Deidre32 Wrote:
(August 31, 2015 at 1:23 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Maybe I'm a masochist, but I don't put people on ignore, generally. I would rather read what is being said and reply to it ... many times even rude folks have good points. So long as they're polite  to me, nothing untoward occurs.

IRL, there is a button that does this, for me, in most cases. I go for a walk or a drive and get the hell away from the person bugging me.

The only time I put people on ignore is if they are sending me rude pm’s, then the ignore feature blocks them from sending anything private to me.

I haven’t had to do that in quite some time.  Shy

On another forum, I'm able to use "contacts and friends" to regulate my inbox content. I've had to do just that a couple of times there, but here and at TTA, I don't have those problems. Then again, I'm not a female online, which is a factor I'm sure adds to your stress and whatnot.

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#58
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 1:28 pm)abaris Wrote:
(August 31, 2015 at 1:18 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: Same here, I will stop to help unless i've got a schedule I must keep.

But that's a different question entirely. I always stop when someone seems to be in need and I certainly don't go by when someone's lying in the streets. Don't laugh, that actually happens, more often than you would think.

But that doesn't change the fact that I don't play nice with rude idiots.

That's exactly the point: I much prefer courtesy, and will go out of my way to extend it even to strangers when I'm able, but I still will not tolerate disrespect.

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#59
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
I don't put anyone on ignore, and I have never filled out a report against anyone either lol.

The way I see it, it's just the internet. If people start being verbally abusive and/or rude, I can just skip over their posts or leave the forums.

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"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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#60
RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
(August 31, 2015 at 4:50 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I don't put anyone on ignore, and I have never filled out a report against anyone either lol.

The way I see it, it's just the internet. If people start being verbally abusive and/or rude, I can just ignore their posts or leave the forums.

I've put three people on my ignore list here. 

Two have since been banned, including he-who-shall-not-be-named, and the other, who is still here, is GC because, frankly, he's freaking insane and arrogant with it.

I'm pretty easy going and I also think I've made two or three reports in the couple of years I've been here.
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