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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm
(August 31, 2015 at 9:53 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: (August 31, 2015 at 6:52 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: if you only knew 
I do, in a way: I was in a long relationship with a woman I met online who told me a lot about that rowing -- and way back in the AOL days, I experimented with female names in order to see how the internet experience might be different vis gender ... and it is.
Interesting you did that!
Overall, I've had a great experience online on most forums. But, there's always the occasional bad apple that gets through. Over time, you learn and you grow. I guess that's what such experiences hopefully will teach us.
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:18 pm
(August 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: (August 31, 2015 at 9:53 pm)Parkers Tan Wrote: I do, in a way: I was in a long relationship with a woman I met online who told me a lot about that rowing -- and way back in the AOL days, I experimented with female names in order to see how the internet experience might be different vis gender ... and it is.
Interesting you did that!
Overall, I've had a great experience online on most forums. But, there's always the occasional bad apple that gets through. Over time, you learn and you grow. I guess that's what such experiences hopefully will teach us.
Same. For the most part my experiences online have been positive.
But the number of messages I get on FB just saying things like "hi babe", "how old are you" and "do you Skype" tend to get bloody annoying.
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:19 pm
I try to be kind to most people. But it depends on my mood.
Some days I am in such good mood that I can be in charity with all mankind.
On an average day I tend to be kind to everyone with whom I have no strong reason for grudge.
On a particularly bad day I am irritated that some people can be so inconsiderate as to be unusually kind to me, Thus forcing upon me the annoying and unwanted qualms about being nasty to them.
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:20 pm
(August 31, 2015 at 10:18 pm)Beccs Wrote: (August 31, 2015 at 10:10 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Interesting you did that!
Overall, I've had a great experience online on most forums. But, there's always the occasional bad apple that gets through. Over time, you learn and you grow. I guess that's what such experiences hopefully will teach us.
Same. For the most part my experiences online have been positive.
But the number of messages I get on FB just saying things like "hi babe", "how old are you" and "do you Skype" tend to get bloody annoying.
haha ugh, don't get me started on FB. I'm not happy with it, lately. 
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:21 pm
(August 31, 2015 at 10:20 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: (August 31, 2015 at 10:18 pm)Beccs Wrote: Same. For the most part my experiences online have been positive.
But the number of messages I get on FB just saying things like "hi babe", "how old are you" and "do you Skype" tend to get bloody annoying.
haha ugh, don't get me started on FB. I'm not happy with it, lately.
I tend to block the senders of messages like that. I have my circle of trusted friends and then LOTS of people I know through other FB friends.
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
August 31, 2015 at 10:40 pm
I'm usually nice to everyone. It's very rare that I snap, and even then it's a lecture type of snap. I've found that when I suddenly reveal how much I've been thinking (read: over analyzing from every angle so they can't possibly win) about how much someone has been bothering me, they look at me like I'm crazy. And they turn it on me like "...where on earth is this comig from." Haha So I try to keep that stuff to myself. It's a hell of a lot better than exploding though. I've exploded twice at work and it never gets less silly.
I can't remember where this verse is from, I think it got removed from canon:
"I don't hang around with mostly men because I'm gay. It's because men are better than women. Better trained, better equipped...better. Just better! I'm not gay."
For context, this is the previous verse:
"Hi Jesus" -robvalue
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
September 1, 2015 at 7:37 am
Silence is the best weapon. It's for one's healing, but it's fascinating the damage it does to the other person who has wronged you. Most guys I've broken up with, expect me to flip out over something. But, if you wrong me enough, I delete you. lol
Try it sometime. Don't lose your cool, just ignore the person. You will be amazed at how they 'react.'
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
September 1, 2015 at 5:26 pm
I'm friendly and kind until I have reason not to be. Then it's "fuck you" or "fuck it", depending on my general mood or how tired I am. I don't believe in turning the other cheek. If you push, you'll get pushed back.
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
September 1, 2015 at 6:48 pm
The residue of religion sometimes sticks to me after all this time where I remember hearing to be kind to one's enemies. And I've always thought "why?"
I don't think we need to return meanness for meanness but to me, I'm not pretending like someone treating me badly is ok. Does that make sense?
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RE: Are you kind only to those who are kind to you?
September 1, 2015 at 6:52 pm
(September 1, 2015 at 6:48 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: The residue of religion sometimes sticks to me after all this time where I remember hearing to be kind to one's enemies. And I've always thought "why?"
I don't think we need to return meanness for meanness but to me, I'm not pretending like someone treating me badly is ok. Does that make sense?
Yes, it makes sense.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
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