How do you handle the bigots in your life?

[Aroura]

So, I'm trying to get ready to leave the house to go shopping, but I get a message from one of the women who claimed they would take over our Girl Scout Troop, as I am no longer able to do it.

She says she can't do it, because the drama between me and the co-leader during a public spat. : Since neither of us will be in this troop, I don't see the problem.

And anyway, the other woman who was going to be coleader already messaged me and said she was too busy with her part time job, and she could not continue to support an organization that supported abortion (I facepalmed reading this) AND transgender and gay girls.  So...she's a bigot. 
So the truth is they are both bigoted bitches who can't be fussed to even look at facts, not that it was my fault.

Right now, I have a RANT typed up, but I have not sent it back.  I feel like telling both of these women exactly what I think of them.  They are both liars, bigots, and hypcrites.  I wish I had never met either of them, and I am sorry their children will be raised with such horrible hateful mothers.

But...I'm a Girl Scout, and I can't say that.

How do I tell them I find their views extremely disgusting, and their lies about the real reasons for being unable to continue to be distasteful, without coming off like "The Bitch"?

I am THIS CLOSE to just deleting my FB page and telling most of humanity to eff off.  People are just....I can't handle them sometimes.

[brewer]

All I can say is think twice. Give it some cool down time and think of any possible negative ramifications.

Maybe for your daughter. Maybe for you, depending on the size of your community and social group. Don't think for a minute they won't twist your words to make you the person on the outside. Or gather a group to, if not attack, exclude you, your daughter, your family.

Sometimes the battle is not worth fighting, sometimes it is. Only you can decide. I personally have never had a battle go well when I'm still seething mad.

Good Luck.

[Mermaid]

I would not address that at all. There is basically no chance to accomplish anything by firing back at them, it can only cause more conflict and give them fuel. If someone says something like that out loud to me, I will put my hand up, tell them it's not OK to talk like that in front of me and change the topic. That is for me, though, and not for them.

[Jackalope]

I don't.

Once I learn someone is a bigot, their involvement in my life drops to zero.

[Thumpalumpacus]

I keep bigots as distant as possible.

As for your situation, a rant would only be counterproductive. Tell them that you will do it, and use the opportunity to make sure the girls in the troop understand the value of tolerance ... without naming and shaming.

[Losty]

"I am THIS CLOSE to just deleting my FB page and telling most of humanity to eff off. People are just....I can't handle them sometimes."

This is exactly how I dealt with it. I cut out everyone in my life that I considered a poison. Everyone that I didn't think my children should have to grow up with like I did. (including almost everyone in my family)
I moved away and I plan to start anew with my babies. Fuck the rest of them. And if I encounter any new bigot along the way, to hell with them too.

[SteelCurtain]

My parents and sister are in this camp. It is the last remaining source of cognitive dissonance left in my life. There is a widening gulf between my sister and I. My mother (who speaks for my father, who I suspect doesn't actually believe this full flag) is a Fox News loving, Family radio listening Tea Party conservative. I happen to be a hopeless momma's boy. I choose to let it go. If the topic gets broached, I will speak my mind. Otherwise, I just stuff the knowledge that my mom wants gays to be second class citizens and that she believes that Jesus should be president. But Mexican Jesus should be shipped back to Mexico.

[Aroura]

Thank you all for the advice and support. I managed not to freak out on her. I just ended it professionally, passed her info up to council so she knows who to contact if she has questions, and then hid all their feeds. ?

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

Much like Stimbo, I have no bigots in my life. Except Swedes, and you know how they are...

Honestly, Aroura, I don't see any way for you to tell these people about themselves without coming off as a bitch (not implying that you are, but that's how they'll take it). But frankly, do you truly care what these feeble-minded knuckle draggers think of you? There are scads of people in the world who think my first name is 'Thatbastard', and I'm ok with it - these aren't people with whom I care to be involved.

Best of luck sorting this one out. Wish I could be more helpful.

Boru

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

Note to self: Type faster.

Boru