Sex Change

[Fake Messiah]

I recently watched this video about James Charles Harries - a former child prodigy millionaire who, by now, is grown up and changed his gender into female.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lma7Lb6aMfs

I don't know why but it got me thinking about gender, what it feels to have a certain gender so much so that you feel you're trapped in wrong gender body? I mean I am a man, but I can't say that I particularly feel my gender, like I don't feel the color of my skin or color of my eyes. I mean what exactly do these people specifically miss from other gender? Most of these guys when they change sex they get big boobs, I guess to have a big cleavage - is that what being woman is? Having boobs and wearing dresses? How big difference is that? Sure people look at you differently, but do you feel differently? Lots of men have big "female" boobs it doesn't make them feel much femaleish.

Certainly there is a rare medical condition that a person gets born and looks like a woman up until one point when doctor discovers that she is actually he in the inside and it can get really serious. I've heard about a "woman" that didn't discover she was actually a man up until few days before her wedding after which her fiancee broke up with her and she started drinking. Perhaps that is different, because as a person of a certain gender you build relationships with other people on account of your gender and it is certainly hard to have a normal life if you look like a woman on the outside, but having a penis in the inside, because you are actually both things at the same time and at a certain point in your life a society demands of you to choose side. Those are extreme cases.

[Aoi Magi]

It's not about physical appearances. It is really hard to explain because it is a feeling which only those who experience it can fully understand. Think of it as a suffocating feeling of being in a dream and unable to wake up. You feel like you are trapped in a body that doesn't belong to you.

[Edwardo Piet]

A sex change is to change your sex so it matches your gender. A female transgender person, for example, with the biological sex of "male" is a female to begin with, before her sex change.

[Regina]

The "trapped" feeling is a real thing. The medical term for it is "gender dysphoria", where the person feels a sense of shock, revulsion or confusion about their body before they transition. Gender identity is just that, identity, yes you can literally "feel" male or female (or both, which I'll get onto in a minute). It's down to how well you identify with the genders. A transgender woman (even pro-op living as a man) will probably identify with, feel more empathy for, and find more in common with women rather than men. Most transgender people will have this dysphoria to an extent, although it is a matter of degrees. Some transgender people only have it a bit and so they don't plan on transitioning.

I don't talk about this much, mostly because people take it even less seriously now we live in the age of Tumblr (thanks to all their fucking ridiculous pissing contest special snowflake "identities"), but my gender identity is somewhere in the "in betweens". In fact, I actually fluctuate back and forth, I go through "male" phases and "female" phases. So yes, I'm familiar with how you can "feel" a certain gender. It doesn't even have much to do with gender roles, I'm the same personality whatever my gender currently is, it's just how I'm feeling at a particular time. Personally though, I don't feel much physical dysphoria, so I have no plans for drastic transitioning, I'm very comfortable in a male body and don't get that "trapped" feeling ever. I guess I'm more of a genderfucked "female man" when I'm on a feminine stage.

[Edwardo Piet]

I feel rather genderless but I totally embrace having a cock and using it.

I don't consider myself masculine or feminine outside the bedroom.

[Aractus]

I recently watched this video about James Charles Harries - a former child prodigy millionaire who, by now, is grown up and changed his gender into female.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lma7Lb6aMfs

I don't know why but it got me thinking about gender, what it feels to have a certain gender so much so that you feel you're trapped in wrong gender body? I mean I am a man, but I can't say that I particularly feel my gender, like I don't feel the color of my skin or color of my eyes. I mean what exactly do these people specifically miss from other gender? Most of these guys when they change sex they get big boobs, I guess to have a big cleavage - is that what being woman is? Having boobs and wearing dresses? How big difference is that? Sure people look at you differently, but do you feel differently? Lots of men have big "female" boobs it doesn't make them feel much femaleish.

Certainly there is a rare medical condition that a person gets born and looks like a woman up until one point when doctor discovers that she is actually he in the inside and it can get really serious. I've heard about a "woman" that didn't discover she was actually a man up until few days before her wedding after which her fiancee broke up with her and she started drinking. Perhaps that is different, because as a person of a certain gender you build relationships with other people on account of your gender and it is certainly hard to have a normal life if you look like a woman on the outside, but having a penis in the inside, because you are actually both things at the same time and at a certain point in your life a society demands of you to choose side. Those are extreme cases.

First off, "sex" and "gender" mean exactly the same thing in most scientific disciplines. The use by transgender people to refer to "sex" as biological and "gender" as psychological is quite arbitrary: they are simply two different disciplines that disagree on how to define and categorise gender. According to biology there are only two genders: male and female, and combinations of both, or the absence of either.

The condition you're thinking of is probably androgen-insensitivity syndrome (AIS), here's a picture (with mild nudity) showing three siblings with AIS that are genetically male, but show a female phenotype:

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Of course it's also perfectly possible for genetic females to suffer from AIS as well, luckily though for them it doesn't affect their phenotype.

You can't really "change" your sex, you can only alter your body in a direction that makes you feel more comfortable with who you are. But just as the case with AIS where a genetic male is quite literally trapped inside the wrong body, transgender people are also trapped inside the wrong body - although its their femininity (or masculinity) rather than genetics.

[henryp]

It's definitely a tricky one for people who are more progressive, as rejecting gender roles has been a part of the movement. The reality is, the push that men and women are the same probably went too far, and the downplaying of the differences has some of us a little more puzzled than others at the idea of identifying as the opposite sex.