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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 25, 2017 at 5:09 pm
(July 25, 2017 at 5:08 pm)Regina Wrote: CIJS - Why did you bother messaging me first on Tinder, if you're only going to give me very much so one-sentence texts and replies like you're not interested?
I'm not mad at you, at least you're giving me "fuckboy time waster" upfront unlike a lot of other men so, but seriously these men have no idea what they want or personalities.
I thought Tinder was designed specifically for one night stands?
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 25, 2017 at 5:15 pm
(July 25, 2017 at 5:09 pm)Lutrinae Wrote: (July 25, 2017 at 5:08 pm)Regina Wrote: CIJS - Why did you bother messaging me first on Tinder, if you're only going to give me very much so one-sentence texts and replies like you're not interested?
I'm not mad at you, at least you're giving me "fuckboy time waster" upfront unlike a lot of other men so, but seriously these men have no idea what they want or personalities.
I thought Tinder was designed specifically for one night stands?
That's Grindr. Tinder is slightly less sleazy... slightly.
And that's another thing tbh, I hate how normalised using Grindr is with gay men. It's just so casually slipped into every conversation like it's so normal to only want hook-ups and nothing deeper.
And again, it's not the hook-ups themselves. I've had them, most of us have, and I'm not a hypocrite. But serious stop celebrating this ratchetness, like it's cute and liberating.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 11:23 am
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I understand and I'm sorry. I broke trust and I couldn't feel more remorse over this. Those involved have been more forgiving than I think I deserve and I hope one day to rebuild what's been lost.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 12:21 pm
(July 25, 2017 at 5:15 pm)Regina Wrote: (July 25, 2017 at 5:09 pm)Lutrinae Wrote: I thought Tinder was designed specifically for one night stands?
That's Grindr. Tinder is slightly less sleazy... slightly.
Lol y'all must have that good Tinder over there in Brumtown. In Tennessee, it is just Grindr light. (And not specifically geared toward teh gays.)
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 8:33 pm
CIJS- You literally get mad and mean and start fights every single time I don't want to have sex. You also bring up the fight unprovoked when you're not trying to have sex and you heavily imply and sometimes explicitly say that our relationship is shit unless I have sex with you. You accuse me of mistreating you by not wanting sex, while you completely ignore my own feelings and needs.
This relationship is about you getting off. If not for that, it's not worth it. I'm not worth it. You're sick of it. You're tired of my behavior, you know, the behavior of simply not wanting to be made to have sex when I don't want to.
And every time you do this you chip away at my feelings for you. I am slowly starting to see you as a person I don't want to be with. A person I wouldn't even be friends with. I keep warning you that you need to change. You need to stop acting this way. But you ignore my warnings, and you are doing so at the detriment of our relationship.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 8:34 pm
CIJS,
You think you're hot shit, but you're not. In fact, I ignore you for a reason.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 8:37 pm
CIJS also, I know I'm an idiot. I know I am. I look at myself every day in the mirror and I say "S, you are a fucking idiot". I know something is seriously wrong with me that I let myself go through these things. And I think on a deeper level something else really wrong with me that I attract the kind of people who want to do these things to me.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 9:16 pm
Wow, he sounds like a real douche... 
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 9:20 pm
(July 26, 2017 at 8:33 pm)Losty Wrote: CIJS- You literally get mad and mean and start fights every single time I don't want to have sex. You also bring up the fight unprovoked when you're not trying to have sex and you heavily imply and sometimes explicitly say that our relationship is shit unless I have sex with you. You accuse me of mistreating you by not wanting sex, while you completely ignore my own feelings and needs.
This relationship is about you getting off. If not for that, it's not worth it. I'm not worth it. You're sick of it. You're tired of my behavior, you know, the behavior of simply not wanting to be made to have sex when I don't want to.
And every time you do this you chip away at my feelings for you. I am slowly starting to see you as a person I don't want to be with. A person I wouldn't even be friends with. I keep warning you that you need to change. You need to stop acting this way. But you ignore my warnings, and you are doing so at the detriment of our relationship.
Stop allowing this character to rent space inside your head and your heart. You are worth far more than to get treated like this by anyone - ever.
Text me if you need an ear, love.
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RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
July 26, 2017 at 9:22 pm
(July 26, 2017 at 8:37 pm)Losty Wrote: CIJS also, I know I'm an idiot. I know I am. I look at myself every day in the mirror and I say "S, you are a fucking idiot". I know something is seriously wrong with me that I let myself go through these things. And I think on a deeper level something else really wrong with me that I attract the kind of people who want to do these things to me.
You're not an idiot. I'm literally crying after reading your post. Omg I feel this. So bad. You know my past. Reading this just crunched my heart. I'm so sorry you feel like something is wrong with you.
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