Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...

[pocaracas]

No lynching necessary, however, I've learned the fine art of acquiring information from not-so-typical sources.

I see.... 4chan/b, say no more!

[Regina]

Not sure why I'm hearing an ice cream van, when it's blustery rain, depressing dark clouds and near gale force winds.

Honey this is not ice cream weather, you're not going to get custom on today. Go home, put the kettle on and have a brew.

[Joods]

Not sure why I'm hearing an ice cream van, when it's blustery rain, depressing dark clouds and near gale force winds.

Honey this is not ice cream weather, you're not going to get custom on today. Go home, put the kettle on and have a brew.

bold mine

I can hear you in your best gay voice saying this with extra sass thrown in. LOL

[vorlon13]

CIJS, RM:

are you playing matchmaker for me ??

LOL !! Encountered a buddy of yours, or did this buddy of yours set out to encounter me? And he sure was friendly, and made sure I realized who our friend in common is.

-and-

do you think we'd be a match? He's pretty close to what I've told you I like. Did he come out to you at some point and you're doing what you can to get your gay friends hooked up? You naughty boy !!

Well, he's prodded me to get in touch with you, and yeah, that's what's on my to-do list. Just need to get caught up a bit, and I'll be over.

[ignoramus]

Or, when asked why a Space Shuttle launch was so expensive, responded, "The high price of gasoline?". Looks like he won't.

What a loser! Everyone knows it's avgas!

[vorlon13]

CIJS;

apparently this happened a while back and it only recently filtered to my level, but GOOD FOR YOU!!

I actually had wondered if/when you might realize your mom has a SERIOUS mental health problem. See, you've grown up with her, your standard of "normal" is probably skewed a bit so you never even suspected other moms are NOT like your mom. But you're in high school now, and you've met other moms, you've been in other homes, and lo and behold, you noticed your mom is PROFOUNDLY different. At first blush, everyone sees a slightly aging hippy type 'peace and love' oriented woman. But every so often, something (or even nothing) will set her off and instantaneously, she turns into someone who could literally scare the holy shit out of Jason Voorhees, Freddy Krueger, hell, anyone you can think of.

And there you are, that ain't normal. And she does it frequently. Now, most the rest of us have noticed how bad she gets does vary somewhat over time. There have been months and months where the bad side, while really, really bad, is nowhere close to other times when that bad side is staggeringly worse.

She has 'some' control over it, and she is big into self medicating, both holistic New Age crap, which you have noticed does nothing, and various street drugs that might make her feel better, but as you can see, actually makes it much worse.

Now, you've done very well to figure out something is wrong, but then you IMMEDIATELY fucked up. I'm sorry, but LOL, you seriously thought approaching her from a concerned soon to be an adult frame of reference was going to help !!

Seriously, I'm sorry, but I'm still ROTFLMFAO !!!

Anyone and everyone could have told you (and why you didn't just know this is a hoot!) don't you dare confront her about it. Jesus Fucking Christ, if there is anything in the known universe that would set her off, it would be that.

Here's your best bet:

pretend everything is fine, she'll erupt again and again over real or perceived trivial slights and your fuck up will be lost in the signal to noise ratio of her life. No, what you need to do is keep up those good grades (how the hell you do that is a total mystery) graduate, get a tuition grant, and GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM HER.

Really, that's it. Just turn 18, graduate, and RUN as far away as you can and never come back. Don't worry about your dad, the instant you're gone, he'll bolt for the door too. There are only 2 possibilities why he has stuck around for all the abuse you've seen (and I guaranty there was MUCH more): it's either to see you escape first, or it just never occurred to him to leave. Yeah, there's another revelation for you, you're dad is about as sharp as liver. And maybe he grew up with a parent of his own similarly fucked up and has yet to realize not everyone is like that.

Anyhow, to reiterate, just don't set her off any more than you possibly can, realize she will NEVER get better, AND GET THE FUCK OUT OF DODGE.


You'll be fine. Now go to the library and study some more.

[KevinM1]

CIJS

You write to us (even though it's forbidden by the terms of your parole), say you don't want sympathy (then why the fuck are you writing?), and then in the same letter/packet show us that you had face cancer (stage 3 squamous cell carcinoma in the right cheek) that you had removed, along with a portion of your upper jaw and palette.

Sorry, but no, I don't feel sad for you.  Not after the years of mental abuse (and, for a short time, years of physical abuse towards my oldest brother).  Not after violating someone you, as her uncle, were supposed to protect.  You're a 'father' in the sense that some of your genetic material resides within myself and my brothers, but you were never a father.  There's a reason why, once we found out what you did, we worked with the police and district attorney to arrest your sorry ass.  There's a reason why we all changed our last names to mom's maiden name.  There's a reason why, as a family, we've all changed your title from 'dad' to 'asshole'; It's the only way we refer to you now.

I 'care' only because I'm waiting for you to die.  Maybe then, she'll finally have true closure.  So, no, your letter doesn't generate sadness, or concern, or a desire to make up, or any other such bullshit.  It has the opposite effect.  It makes me think I won't have to wait much longer for the desired outcome.  With the horrific surgery you had, maybe now you look as ugly on the outside as I know you are on the inside.  I can only hope.

[vorlon13]

not to make light of things, but there is a match made in heaven, er, oops, hell, that would serve the 2 of them right.

[Joods]

CIJS -

Ever wish you could just walk away from all of it? Walk away from the disrespect, the rudeness, the lies, the bullshit, the assholes and just say fuck all of you and leave?

Yeah - that's where I am right the fuck now.

[Foxaèr]

CIJS -

Ever wish you could just walk away from all of it? Walk away from the disrespect, the rudeness, the lies, the bullshit, the assholes and just say fuck all of you and leave?

Yeah - that's where I am right the fuck now.

Sometimes, picking up and leaving is what is necessary.

Of course, it is certainly easier with those who have no family ties in the area they are leaving.