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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 4:11 am
(July 18, 2017 at 3:59 am)ignoramus Wrote: Beccs, what if they're both sisters? Does that bother you? (like his mum and his Aunt?) hehe
He's from Canada, not Tasmania...
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 4:19 am
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Well to give the short version
I'm straight
My first girl friend ( who with me on my trip ) is bi
I meet my second girl friend we all got along if you know what I mean. (I always seem to find Bi women ) So it grew into a poly relationship .
Too be fair in Inuit culture having more then one partner is not unusual. Even marriages tend to be pretty open in modern times . (not my parents thou to catholic ) .
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 8:40 am
Man oh man did she love me with all her heart. A pretty cute face too. One of those rare kinds of things were she actually falls for the personality kind of things..? Yeah yeah but shit fuck me dry I just could not get it up for her... Damn lol fuck, a cute face.. but not my type. It's not like I can just tell her sorry girl but you don't do it for my partner down there.. Soo.. I plot a plan and became an a hole, one that she would hate. Yep. I pushed her so far away she eventually didn't float back. Yeah that's when I finally figured, shit, I really her and like a cheesy male protagonist of a shitty romantic movie went to her with apologies and regrets only to have myself (rightly) kicked to the curb..off of her tiny little heart. Yeah she was tiny but our fights were huge. I even gave her a cute nickname. Cheered her up when she was down, she once said nobody ever made her feel good about her as much as I did and then in the end after driving an argument to the point where she broke down and cried.. I left like the dickhead I am. She said I was the first to make her feel so good and also so awful. Nobody ever was rude to the little thing after all how could they she had the face of a cat asking to get its belly rubbed meowww. Ah the poor thing best if my dumb ass isn't in her life anyway. I'm taking a time out as of now whoohooo. Damn, I need it. Feel so much less tensed now. Sometimes even sleep well. Love is sweet but shit will it drive you up the wall too if it's with the wrong person. Be practical.. If you go after the fee fees you won't make it..be with someone you know you can be with..anyway.. Don't be a mess (like me) learn from other's mistakes and when you finally break it, break it in Good terms.. Because you always want to greet with a smile..
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 8:43 am
The majority of the time, I tend to fall into lust with men.
Once in a while, I will develop an intense crush on a guy.
I doubt I have ever been in love before, though.
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 9:15 am
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I experience love as a deep and satisfying happiness, or as a bit of maniacal laughter shared with someone crazy as myself, or as that ache that happens when she isn't near, or ...
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 11:38 am
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Tailoring my answer to be age appropriate, I've been lucky enough to fall in love a few times. The initial feelings, the crush, have always been the same but the enduring emotions, the love, have always been different, dependent on the woman and the bond that develops.
Sometimes you'll be able to describe it, other times not and if it ends, the feelings of loss will be as unique as the love that led to them.
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 11:42 am
I don't think I've really experienced it yet.
I've been in lust, I've been infatuated and I've just frankly been in heat. I don't think I've ever had such a bond with someone that I'd call it real "love".
I'm the type of person who thinks the feeling has to be mutual for it to really count though, so eh
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 11:50 am
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Love, ick, I don't understand it.
Lust and infatuation, yum, that I get.
Just be ready to have your heart broken, love or lust. Just comes with the territory and your age.
Edit: Sorry, couldn't wade thru any of the prior sappy posts.
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 12:54 pm
I finally ''found'' love, or maybe finally stopped running from it. It's more than chemistry or even trust. I think it's love when you are not able to really explain how you feel. You just ...feel it.
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RE: How do Men/Women Experience Love?
July 18, 2017 at 1:45 pm
Hmm. I assume you mean the feeling of falling in love with one other person. (I'm lesbian, by the way. Not sure that matters though.)
I have a history of infatuation/crushes. Unfortunately, I tend to be more than a little unwise in handling these crushes. Because most of them have been focused on someone who liked my company but didn't want me as a romantic partner. Idiot me, I kept hoping. And I fell for people who had no problem with using me in any way they wanted - "she'll be around, she'll help paint the house", etc. Did I learn from my gullibility? Not at all - until someone came around who was bisexual and wanted a female lover "on the side" . . . why I fell for that . . . oh I really haven't had enough therapy. Yeah, I have some self-esteem issues. Anyway, that one "broke" me. After a year I finally wised up and said "no more". I've pretty much been solitary ever since.
But I'm well aware of the feeling as a basic "I would do anything for ___. Any day I get to see ____ is a good day. Any day I don't is a bad day." For me, that's pretty much the definition.
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