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**The Grand Nudger** · September 14, 2018 at 3:03 pm

What I like to do..is hold my arms straight out in both directions..and then start twisting violently back and forth at the torso screaming "TERRITORIAL BUBBLE! TERRITORIAL BUBBLE!"

Might work for you, worth a shot. Wink

**emjay** · September 14, 2018 at 3:32 pm

(September 14, 2018 at 3:03 pm)Khemikal Wrote: What I like to do..is hold my arms straight out in both directions..and then start twisting violently back and forth at the torso screaming "TERRITORIAL BUBBLE! TERRITORIAL BUBBLE!"

Might work for you, worth a shot.

There's an image to last a lifetime, thanks for that Dodgy

Angrboda · September 14, 2018 at 4:16 pm

We're never gonna be satisfied. As a parent, you may tire of your kids and wish they were more independent. Then when they become independent enough to leave the nest, you regret the times you didn't spend together. And as their lives get busier, and the visits less frequent, you long for the days when you had more than you could take from them. The situation is never going to be ideal, and the things you want today, you may regret wanting tomorrow. If you need space, that's cool. But accept some compromise. Today is gone all too fast. Take the fruit, and throw out the seed. The opportunity may not come around again.

**brewer** · September 14, 2018 at 5:02 pm

People need to come with an "ignore" function.

**CapnAwesome** · September 16, 2018 at 11:26 am

(September 13, 2018 at 7:14 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: I just feel like I want to get some space from my family and relatives, but not to the point of cutting relationships entirely.
The reason for this (or one of the reasons) might be our differences. I love them, yet I sometimes feel like I don't belong.
Dad told me that he wants us to be a united family, but I want a little less contact with him and the others.
Am I wrong for wanting less contact?

It's hard to say without more details. I mean do you live in the same city? What exactly feels smothering? What does your father mean by a United family?

**Foxaèr** · September 16, 2018 at 11:28 am

(September 13, 2018 at 7:14 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: Am I wrong for wanting less contact?

Nope.

polymath257 · September 16, 2018 at 8:45 pm

I know it isn't your situation, but part of the reason my marriage works is that my wife and I both want alone time and are sensitive enough to the other that we realize when that alone time is needed. For example, I know that when she gets home from work, she needs a half hour or so to decompress. Unless there is something *important*, that is what is required for her mental health.

In any relationship, learning that balance between wanting to be with someone and wanting to NOT be with them is part of the game.

On the other hand, I don't like to spend time with my birth family.

*Deidre* · September 16, 2018 at 10:32 pm

Totally normal and healthy to want space.

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