Dating Advice

[brewer]

Turn down your 'creepy' factor as much as you can.

Good advice.

Can you give some ideas as how best to do that?

Personally, I'd suggest: be good looking, have good hygiene, being very cautious of personal space and body language, not talking about sex unless already friends, no sexist remarks, no staring, always being in a group, don't be neurodiverse, don't act in odd or anti-social ways, don't trauma dump or talk too much about yourself, don't have a weird voice

Try to emulate the behavior of the particular group/culture that you find yourself in. Understand that it's not 'all about you'

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

From my very limited experiences of dating (as well as observing others), I'd recommend:

a)  Be young & good looking - weight, dentistry, hair, hygiene, scent, fashion, etc

b)  Go where there's people - live in a big city

c)  Be socially active - join clubs, do hobbies, go out and meet loads of people

d)  Be charismatic - be personable, funny, confident, intelligent, kind, mature etc

e)  Be wealthy & independent - have a job, home, car, disposable income etc

f)  Have a great dating app profile - good photos, bio etc


Basically, be a great catch and meet hundreds of people.

I can personally attest that being good looking is not a requisite for successful dating.

Boru

[FrustratedFool]

Sure.
But it makes it much easier.

Smelling nice isn't a requisite either.
Or being charming, or likeable, or non-creepy etc.
But it all makes a difference.

[Thumpalumpacus]

Present your best dating advice here.

Be yourself. There's no point in attracting people to a person you aren't.

Be sensitive to moments. Sometimes the impetuous is needed; sometimes it's utterly out of place.

Don't put too much weight on a relationship early. Let it grow organically.

Have fun. That's what these things are about.

[Ahriman]

Oh wow, reading this thread really drives it home that I have zero fucking chance with females.

[FrustratedFool]

Oh wow, reading this thread really drives it home that I have zero fucking chance with females.

How so?

[Ahriman]

Oh wow, reading this thread really drives it home that I have zero fucking chance with females.

How so?

I am a socially awkward, socially inept, smelly dude who is also kind of antisocial and I haven't been with a female in many years. It's not going to work out for me because it wasn't meant to work out for me. Some people can have relationships, others don't fare so well. That’s it.

[FrustratedFool]

It's fairly easy to stop being smelly unless you have some serious medical condition.

And how anti-social and socially inept are we talking here? Are you anable to function in society independently? Are you able to have friends, or at least acquaintances?

I agree that some people really struggle with relationships.

[Ahriman]

It's fairly easy to stop being smelly unless you have some serious medical condition.

And how anti-social and socially inept are we talking here?  Are you anable to function in society independently?  Are you able to have friends, or at least acquaintances?

I agree that some people really struggle with relationships.

I've known this black dude for a whole year and we're still not friends. He just buys things for me sometimes. He's not a potential sex partner so I don't really care about him at all.

[FrustratedFool]

So doesn't anyone like you?
When was the last time someone liked you?