Dating Advice

[Gawdzilla Sama]

Present your best dating advice here.

Be sure you can tell dates from figs.

[Ahriman]

Gee, I can't imagine why you're not liked.

Well no one is obligated to like me. But they dislike me for the wrong reasons.

[Thumpalumpacus]

I want a boyfriend but if my parents found out I had one that would pretty much be the end of my life as I know it.

Mom would throw you out of the basement, eh?

[arewethereyet]

I want a boyfriend but if my parents found out I had one that would pretty much be the end of my life as I know it.

Mom would throw you out of the basement, eh?

Recently he claimed to have moved to South Carolina...not sure whose basement he currently resides in.  Basements are few and far between in SC.

[Angrboda]

Mom would throw you out of the basement, eh?

Recently he claimed to have moved to South Carolina...not sure whose basement he currently resides in.  Basements are few and far between in SC.

He's so special I'm sure his parents would build a basement just for him.

[Ahriman]

Recently he claimed to have moved to South Carolina...not sure whose basement he currently resides in.  Basements are few and far between in SC.

He's so special I'm sure his parents would build a basement just for him.

Thank you for the compliment, but my parents don't really care about me. That's why I don't live with them.

[GrandizerII]

Often times, it's about luck and getting yourself out there. If you're someone who is very comfortable staying home all day never going to parties or social hangouts on a regular basis, you are less likely to have any chance of a date/mate compared to someone who does.

But other factors also will give some advantages. For example, being good at picking up on whether someone likes you or not, and being good at sending the right signals. You don't even need to be a charmer in that case, just socially aware.

Another example: not being prone to clinging to people who just don't see you as their type. If, say, you're a "boring average" heterosexual guy, you might have a much better chance with a "boring average girl" instead of that "hot girl next door" and therefore less likely to be "friendzoned".

Of course, being likeable helps as well. If you're not sexy looking, you're not a charmer, you're not super smart, you're not a socializer, you're not exciting, you're not confident, at least have a likeable personality. There will probably be someone who will notice that and end up really liking you. Just don't be creepy, don't be narcissistic, and/or don't be a downer. Some people can get away with being all that, but only if they're sexy looking or super rich or have some other thing going really well for them.

Don't be super picky, don't be self-sabotaging, don't expect people to come to you out of nowhere.

And also, if it helps, just don't "date". "Hang out" with them instead, and enjoy their company, and let things unfold naturally between you two.

[Ahriman]

@GrandizerII

I don't want a likeable personality, I don't want to be a "nice guy", I would rather be the rich jerk who just buys whatever kind of woman he wants.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

He's so special I'm sure his parents would build a basement just for him.

Thank you for the compliment, but my parents don't really care about me. That's why I don't live with them.

Have they tried to kill you?

[Angrboda]

@GrandizerII

I don't want a likeable personality, I don't want to be a "nice guy", I would rather be the rich jerk who just buys whatever kind of woman he wants.

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