I agreed not to swear around a Christian friend as a favor...

[syntheticadrenaline]

Alas no I didn't. I calmly told her I was tired of apologizing and changing myself.

The argument was over bullet chess. She disapproves of the fact that I mostly play bullet and blitz and she resents giving me advice and teaching me skills because she thinks I wasted her time playing in crazy fast time controls that are mostly about speed and reaction time. She felt I should have 'let her know' that I 'didn't care about chess' so that she didn't have to waste her time...

I pointed out that I do also play long form chess as well as bullet and blitz and she lost it and swore at me.

She has known since our FIRST EVER CONVERSATION that I was into speed chess. I don't know how she came to feel that I deceived her.

A christian with control/manipulation issues, how novel.

Yeah this has taught me a lesson about accommodating religious people. Give an inch and they take a mile.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

A christian with control/manipulation issues, how novel.

Yeah this has taught me a lesson about accommodating religious people. Give an inch and they take a mile.

Maybe you should switch from chess to something less likely to cause friction. Naughts and Crosses, maybe, or Jenga.

Boru

[syntheticadrenaline]

Yeah this has taught me a lesson about accommodating religious people. Give an inch and they take a mile.

Maybe you should switch from chess to something less likely to cause friction. Naughts and Crosses, maybe, or Jenga.

Boru

LOLOLOL!

[HappySkeptic]

Did you tell her you'd rather drink piss than interact with her again? Christians often claim to value honesty, I think you should. 

I'm curious as to exactly what you said, just before she swore at you, to be honest the curiosity is killing me. 

Alas no I didn't. I calmly told her I was tired of apologizing and changing myself.

The argument was over bullet chess. She disapproves of the fact that I mostly play bullet and blitz and she resents giving me advice and teaching me skills because she thinks I wasted her time playing in crazy fast time controls that are mostly about speed and reaction time. She felt I should have 'let her know' that I 'didn't care about chess' so that she didn't have to waste her time...

I pointed out that I do also play long form chess as well as bullet and blitz and she lost it and swore at me.

She has known since our FIRST EVER CONVERSATION that I was into speed chess. I don't know how she came to feel that I deceived her.

This is weird controlling behavior.  

Faster time controls are the future of popular chess.  The number of people willing to spend 3-5 hours over a board on a regular basis are small.

I played classical chess many years ago.  I didn't enjoy it.  I love Rapid and some Blitz.  I will even play daily games, but over-the-board classical is probably something I'll never do again at a competitive level.  It is a dying format.

[Nanny]

Archie: "You're a true vulgarian, aren't you?"
Otto: "You're the vulgarian, you fuck!"

- A Fish Called Wanda

[Sheldon]

Yeah this has taught me a lesson about accommodating religious people. Give an inch and they take a mile.

Maybe you should switch from chess to something less likely to cause friction. Naughts and Crosses, maybe, or Jenga.

Boru

"The Action Bible Guess-It Game - Updated"

Fkn sorted, sorry, I mean sorted.

[brewer]

Play monster chess with her, change monster to beelzebub.

[syntheticadrenaline]

I will absolutely admit I bear responsibility for not speaking up sooner.

The problem was...each individual criticism sounded very reasonable and I assumed I was the problem.

I didn't mind giving up swearing. I didn't mind giving up dark humor. I didn't mind making the effort to not use violent or gross imagery in conversations. There is no need to say that a movie was 'diarrhea'. You can just say it was bad or that it was terrible.

She got a bit irritated with me showing her my ultrabullet games and mentioned that she knows I love ultra but she isn't really into it. Fair enough. I tried to remember not to mention ultrabullet.

She admitted that talking to me got a bit much sometimes because I seemed to talk about dark subjects a lot; fair enough. I'm writing a series of zombie novels and the subject matter is indeed dark. There are various zombie attacks, gunfights, and a scene where someone impaled himself on a rusty metal fence and tore his inferior vena cava. I admit it's a valid point that she was going through a lot escaping an abusive situation and hearing about impalement and zombies is a bit much. So I started remembering not to mention those things...

...then she came for ultrabullet.

No.

You don't try and take my speed chess away.

I will stop playing ultrabullet when my dead body has finished cooling.

[brewer]

I will absolutely admit I bear responsibility for not speaking up sooner.

The problem was...each individual criticism sounded very reasonable and I assumed I was the problem.

I didn't mind giving up swearing. I didn't mind giving up dark humor. I didn't mind making the effort to not use violent or gross imagery in conversations. There is no need to say that a movie was 'diarrhea'. You can just say it was bad or that it was terrible.

She got a bit irritated with me showing her my ultrabullet games and mentioned that she knows I love ultra but she isn't really into it. Fair enough. I tried to remember not to mention ultrabullet.

She admitted that talking to me got a bit much sometimes because I seemed to talk about dark subjects a lot; fair enough. I'm writing a series of zombie novels and the subject matter is indeed dark. There are various zombie attacks, gunfights, and a scene where someone impaled himself on a rusty metal fence and tore his inferior vena cava. I admit it's a valid point that she was going through a lot escaping an abusive situation and hearing about impalement and zombies is a bit much. So I started remembering not to mention those things...

...then she came for ultrabullet.

No.

You don't try and take my speed chess away.

I will stop playing ultrabullet when my dead body has finished cooling.

Dark bothers her??? Ask her to read the old testement again. If she needs help: https://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/

[Asmodeus]

I swear worse than a drunken sailor in a whorehouse, but yet some of the filthiest jokes and words I've ever heard were from the mouths of my few Christian friends over the years. We don't speak much anymore though. Go figure...