Marriage

[chatpilot]

I am currently separated from my wife but was married for 12 in a half years.At the time I was religious and got married in a church.But now I would not do it again,I think one major mistake is enough for me in this life time.I did get two beautiful girls out of my marriage so even though it did not work out at least something good came of it in the end.

I look upon marriage now with disdain and its one of those things I feel strongly against.Regarding the gays and marriage I think that the reason they fight so hard for it is not just for the legal priviledges but also to be accepted in society like every other couple.It's a form of rebellion against what is considered at least here in the U.S. a christian ritual.I have a rule actually two rules:I dont attend weddings I dont care who is getting married and I dont attend funerals either not even for family members.

[fr0d0]

I hate church ceremonies like this too CP. For me it's the gross hypocrisy it usually involves. I agreed to be God Parent once and the whole thing sickened me. I've never ever seen my god daughter since that day, and she's in her late teens now.

[Edwardo Piet]

Yeah fr0d0 - I just think it takes meaning out of the whole thing. It undermines the true meaning and value of a good relationship. It just 'isn't worthy' in other words.

EvF

[Giff]

I wonder why church marriages have become so popular all of the sudden? I find that strange, is it because it's part of a girls dream of a perfect wedding or what? Mostly is it girls that want to get married and have it their way.

[Edwardo Piet]

Well I'd want to meet a girl who cared about more important things

Like the actual love not silly 'church' and 'marriage' lol. I think that's very superficial in comparison to the actual love in a relationship.

And if I met a girl that wasn't as interested in me unless I obliged in this - then I wouldn't be bothered with them so much if THAT is what's really important to them! Rather than the actual love in the relationship and the relationship in general :S

I think such things are very trivial and superficial. And I find it bizarre and quite ironic that they seem to be portrayed as so important. Because I would think 'tradition' and 'ceremonies' such as those are fucking trivial in comparison to how a couple actually FEELS about each other!!

I mean, get the point and cut the bullshit if you really love each other I think!! But that's just me. Meh, I guess a lot of people perhaps express love in ways that I find to be quite weird and kind of like holding back - e.g: covering up the true meaning with superficial bullshit like 'marriage', 'commitment' and...'tradition'

Oh well lol; maybe it's just me. But I think it takes the meaning OUT of the relationship (at least me) personally...rather than IN.

I think it actually trivializes rather than uplifts.

EvF

[fr0d0]

Church to women represents responsible love. Blokes would want irresponsible and the right to play the field... maybe it's in the genes.

Women aren't religious I don't think... religion just provides what they need.

I think women are far more sensible than blokes. Women live life where blokes play at it.

[Edwardo Piet]

Women aren't religious? What...ever? Huh? What do you mean fr0dest0reen0?

Stereotyping yeah?

I mean...I want a LONG LASTING loving relationship with a girl...I certainly wouldn't dream on abusing women...

But I'm not big on 'commitment' for reasons previously stated.

At the end of the day I just think 'commitment' (unless the couple is staying just for the kids) is overrated. Because I think if people truly care about each other they will be able to stay together without 'making a commitment' which just seems superficial and kind of...dare I say...unworthy to me lol.

EvF

[LukeMC]

At the end of the day I just think 'commitment' (unless the couple is staying just for the kids) is overrated. Because I think if people truly care about each other they will be able to stay together without 'making a commitment' which just seems superficial and kind of...dare I say...unworthy to me lol.

Quoted for brilliance. This is my stance also (did I just call myself brilliant? )

[Edwardo Piet]

Why thank you very much. I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees it that way. Because it makes total and utter sense to me.

Quoted for brilliance you say? Why thank you very much indeedy Luke

EvF

[fr0d0]

I like what you say Evie. I think your twisting the term 'commitment' to mean something it isn't. You're viewing it as something negative and unwanted. Sure, the pieve of paper is meaningless. A Commitment is what love is all about. Love without commitment isn't love I'd suggest.

"Women aren't religious" - I was referring to Giff's post on the popularity of church weddings. I think women are drawn to religious ceremony because it's seen as the only alternative to non commitment. And as I think non commitment is anti women, religion offers the opposite.

I meant women don't want church weddings because they are religious necessarily. Happy?

That you're "not big on commitment" makes you anti women IMO. Anti responsibility. Pro permed haired 80 yr old swingers who wear lots of gold LOL