I dated a Muslim a Hindu, a Christian, and a bunch of other girls who believed in other piles of bullshit.

I was never motivated to get into a debate with them about it and a relationship never escalated beyond sex.

I've been sort of seeing a girl recently who is into so much bullshit like tarot cards and just any kind of nonsense. 

I gave her a book about actual psychology to try and distract her from the bullshit but it hasn't sank in because the other day she was telling me she sees spiritual signs when she sees a butterfly in her garden or something and I just told her that it annoys me when she talks about bullshit and that's the reason why we won't get along or be good together for anything other than sex.

(October 29, 2016 at 6:22 am)Jesster Wrote: Then the guy I'm dating right now, who is a Christian, can actually have really great conversations with me about religion and atheism without either of us getting slightly offended or shocked. Actually, I enjoy and even look forward to that with him. We can both understand and support each other without us ultimately sharing the same beliefs. It also helps that he despises the same sort of Christians that I do.

Sounds to me like you really like/love each other. I'm happy for you , Jess.

Brian was raised Baptist wasn't devout (we didn't date, BTW) and his dying from AIDS and his bastard pastor fucking up his funeral service caused a 'crisis of faith' as they say, in his family.

For some reason, men I've dated have usually been Catholic. I'd theorize it makes the sex better.

I encountered a Quaker once who wanted to date me, but I thought he was strange, even for my tastes and didn't. He was into that Posse Commitatus group among other things.

Lord only knows what I've encountered and didn't know because I didn't ask.

After dating me, one Catholic boyfriend of mine joined a religious order in the church. Curiously, (as you may be thinking) I agreed with his reasons. He might even cite a specific experience with me as a 'calling' to subsequently dedicate his life that way. I'm OK with that too. He was a good person, and the religious order he joined put him to work doing service for folks that needed the help.

(October 29, 2016 at 10:05 am)vorlon13 Wrote: He was into that Posse Commitatus group among other things.

Oh my, that's a whole 'nother level of crazy right there.  Posse Comitatus, militia groups, sovereign citizens, etc.  Bunch of tinfoil-hat-wearing, alternative-Constitution following, gun-toting nutbags.

and he wanted to get in my shorts!

I dated a nun a "few years back." Technically she was no longer a nun, but she still believed very deeply. I met her in a bar in San Diego and we got to chatting. When she got to the Big Reveal I laughed and asked her why she'd left the order. 

"I couldn't handle the chastity thing." 

Things went well that night for both of us. 

What experiences dating religious people?

I've never dated an atheist gal; every woman I've been with has been a believer of one stripe or another. The only religion that'd have me reconsidering on that basis alone is JW. My first live-in was JW, and while our agreement was to not really discuss our differences in belief -- the assholes who came to visit her pissed me off.

They of course disapproved of our living arrangements -- big deal. But don't tell me what to do in my own house when I'm not a follower. I don't go to your "kingdom hall" and tell you how to behave.

My husband was religious when we first started dating--then again, so was I. He was pretty uneasy about things like sex, and cursing. I remember we used to tease him by getting him to say dirty words that he didn't know were dirty like menage a trois. (I wasn't as religious as him). For a while he even thought it was a sin to LIVE TOGETHER. Like in the same house. But we did move in together, and I got him to loosen up a lot. He's an intelligent guy, but he was raised to believe that way.

Eventually both of us started having our doubts. Mine were much stronger than his--so I became an Atheist first. When I told him, he was pretty okay with it. I think that was the first step for him toward Atheism. When I became an atheist--because he knows me so intimately and knows that I'm a good person, he was able to accept that Atheism doesn't make you a bad person. He never tried to pressure me into believing in god again (we never went to church in the first place anyway). His views on god evolved, and he eventually believed... well in humanism with God attached. That's the best way to describe it. "God just wants you to treat people right."

Now he's an atheist just like me. One day he told me "I had been praying to God to ask him to show me a sign--any kind of sign. Then I realized--I've just been talking to myself." And we're much happier for it.

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