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Too long to read. If you don't want to read it all, you can pick parts of it to read. Lol!
The "here's this, so you can relate to my rant" part:
Everyone knows them. The ones who never talk to you unless they need something.
You a dentist? They want a free filling.
You a doctor? Diagnose them. Sign a prescription. Fix their boobs.
You a mechanic? Fix their car.
Stay at home mom or dad? Run some errands for them. You got time, right? Eff.
Fuck. There's even the cousin that doesn't remember your name, but the moment he gets whipped into a pyramid scheme, he visits you and wants to help you become rich. Forget the fact that he's broke.
People want it for free, though. If not, they throw out a degrading offer. Oh! You are a tattoo artist? Can you give me a family discount for the five hours you'll spend on my back on something I'll get to show off to my friends for the rest of my life? Because, what artist doesn't like to put a discount on her art? Eff! Eff I tell you!
The "here's my complaint" part
I write stuff. In Spanish. Won't get into details of what kind of stuff (no, not erotica), but I do it. I wrote something for someone as a favor after reading what she wrote and realizing it was crap. She needed this, because her family is completely broke. They got the money they needed out of it, which made them come back for more. I've invested a lot of time and effort in doing this for them for the last three months, and they have been able to get the money they needed (important cause) that they would NOT have been granted otherwise.
During the last two weeks, they requested two projects with a strict deadline. A deadline. It was a lot for me, since I have a full time job, two kids, and a poetry event I'm organizing in my county for next month. I did it, though. She calls me today to tell me I missed a spot. I forgot to address something and she wants me to fix it by tomorrow. You serious now? You can't do that yourself? The entitlement in her voice!
I'm done. How did I fall into it? They received around 5k for what I have written for them, and I missed a spot. Go away. Go!
The "how I bring you into the conversation" part
End rant. Anyone else got some complain' to do 'bout being too nice you get screwed over? If not, I'll at least accept kudos, ya know, to make me feel better. Do it out of your heart and don't miss a spot.
"Hipster is what happens when young hot people do what old ladies do." -Exian
March 10, 2017 at 12:37 am (This post was last modified: March 10, 2017 at 12:39 am by Joods.)
OMG yes. I feel you all over the place.
Now that I've graduated from school and passed my state boards (before graduating even), once I get my licensure, all the bullshit will start. It's what compelled me to write a post about it on facebook a while back. So here's my rant:
I have student loans to the tune of 18K to pay back. I have kids to feed and bills to pay. So, friends and family, do NOT, I repeat, do NOT get pissed off because you want me to do your hair for free and I say no. Do NOT get mad when I charge you full price for what I do. I didn't just go to school to learn how to cut hair. I had to learn chemistry, anatomy, diseases, chemicals, how to do an 8 step blood spill procedure on a fucking cut. I had to learn the difference between a relaxer containing lye and a "no lye" relaxer. I had to learn the difference between perms requiring the use of heat and ones that don't and on which type of hair to use which type of perm on. I had to know what a metallic salt test was and why it's important that you can spot a boxed dye job on your client's head even when they lie to you and tell you they don't use box color. Yeah. WE KNOW. We've been trained for your lies people. If we weren't, your hair would turn to mush and you'd be bald in a New York minute because you wanted us to raise your 3N hair color to platinum blonde in ONE day. Ain't gonna happen sweet cheeks.
So don't come at me and tell me that I should give you that discount because we are friends or because we are related. I had to learn so many things that I deserve to be paid for my expertise. I deserve to make the amount of money I believe my talents are worth. If you don't like my prices, go elsewhere. It's that simple.
The double process and then the fashion color I used on my own hair also was done using Olaplex. It's highly expensive and on anyone else's head, I would have charged at least $250 to start. I paid for my products. I spent four hours on my own head with NO help. Why don't I pay myself? Because it's MY head and I AM the one working on it. So yes - I do my own head for free minus the cost of products used. But you? You get to pay for my experience. Period.
/rant.
Also let me include that you are essentially asking me to work for free on my day off, and then you don't even want to fully compensate me for the products I have used? Nope sorry. And I fully expect a proper tip from you after I am finished or you can find someone else to reformulate your color for you because I won't be doing your hair again in the future.
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(November 14, 2018 at 8:57 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Have a good day at work. If we ever meet in a professional setting, let me answer your question now. Yes, I DO want fries with that.
I'm the opposite. I hate asking friends and acquaintances for favors. I know a garden design/install guy who can grow anything. He once told me his 'recipe' for amending soil so that pincushion flowers will grow in it. (Very tricky and easy to kill.) As a result I've had one alive for a few years now. Never thought I'd go to all that trouble again. But then I decided to make another raised bed planter to grow a couple more. For the life of me I couldn't find his recipe which I got through Fb comments. So I sent him a message that way but I left him lots of outs. You know, "if you're not too busy" so if I don't hear back he's covered. But today he responded and gave me of the recipe again. Hell, if the plants die I would never let him know and certainly wouldn't blame him in any way. I asked him as a friend, not in his capacity as a landscape expert. For that, I should be a paying customer.
(March 10, 2017 at 1:00 am)Whateverist Wrote: I'm the opposite. I hate asking friends and acquaintances for favors. I know a garden design/install guy who can grow anything. He once told me his 'recipe' for amending soil so that pincushion flowers will grow in it. (Very tricky and easy to kill.) As a result I've had one alive for a few years now. Never thought I'd go to all that trouble again. But then I decided to make another raised bed planter to grow a couple more. For the life of me I couldn't find his recipe which I got through Fb comments. So I sent him a message that way but I left him lots of outs. You know, "if you're not too busy" so if I don't hear back he's covered. But today he responded and gave me of the recipe again. Hell, if the plants die I would never let him know and certainly wouldn't blame him in any way. I asked him as a friend, not in his capacity as a landscape expert. For that, I should be a paying customer.
... and you didn't ask him to do it FOR you. I have trouble asking for favors, too. Needing help pains me. I getchu!
"Hipster is what happens when young hot people do what old ladies do." -Exian
I have a client like that, it's the worst. She pays on the reg so I'm reticent to let her go, but she can be legit unbearable to deal with too, like forgetting what individual payments were for, so that I need to bring up the conversations in written form to convince her I don't actually have to do anything more for her. Her lack of professional boundaries make it worse, she flips me from being friend to being employee whenever it suits her: if I don't want to tailor a specific piece a certain way, it's "I thought we were friends," but when I'm not around to take her call right away it's "I've paid you thousands of dollars, you can't do this to me, blah blah..."
So I have professional boundaries for my client interactions now. Business hours during weekdays only for business calls. And she pays half up front, with all interactions on that end being in writing. I don't have time to be playing the "what can benefit someone else the most this exact second?" game with anyone, let alone her.
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When I was performing, requests for freebies were rampant. I never minded playing charity dos and so on for free, but I'd get asked to perform at weddings, parties, etc, 'as a favour'. One incident ended a friendship - a former friend who was a solicitor helped me out with a minor legal problem and was pretty damned insistent about getting paid (nothing wrong with that). A year or so later, she approached me about playing her sister's wedding reception, and was shocked at the price I quoted her (half my base fee at the time). Her response was something like, 'But we've known each other for years!', as if that was relevant.
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