(September 16, 2017 at 10:14 am)Whateverist Wrote: I've been with two women who, unless they were shitting me, hadn't experienced orgasms.  I believe some number of women manage to grow up without ever discovering this capacity of their body.

I'm 43 and have never had an orgasm. I don't think that I ever will. It would be nice to have one once just to see what they are like but it's also not something that I have a strong hunger for. I normally think about my research during sex.

(September 16, 2017 at 9:01 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: He called me today so we can speak. He told me many things about what I should and shouldn't do later in life. At some point, he told me that my future husband must be christian, it doesn't matter the denomination. 
This is hypocrisy, my dad doesn't believe in Hell, and he told me years ago that other religions aren't worse than ours. 
I'm in the closet atheist, and I would prefer to marry a nonebeliever like me. Yes, two persons with different religions, or a religios and a nonreligious person can get married and be happy, but I do think that atheism is right. I see other beliefs as wrong, and I don't claim otherwise, so I'm not a hypocrite, unlike my dad.
Dad insists so much sometimes about me marrying a man, I'm lucky I'm not a lesbian. I'm pretty sure he would accept me, or at the very least tolerate me if I was asexual and/or aromantic, since society doesn't usually discriminate against those kind of people, not in Europe at the very least. The thing is, I'm not entirely sure about my sexuality. I never had a crush, not a serious one at the very least, but I do feel some kind of attraction towards males, I'm not sure about girls, though. I've had fantasies about being with both boys and girls, I didn't ask for those fantasies, they sympli happened. The idea of dating an intersex person doesn't disgust me. Also, I don't know if I would like dating a transgender or non-binary person, I don't have anything against them, I sympli don't know if I am romantically or sexually attracted to them. I don't know if I'm bisexual, bi-curious, pansexual, or something else.

YOU'RE the one to be married, not your dad. Tell him to take what he 'wants', fold it til it's nothing but corners, and shove it in his oubliette. 

Boru

(September 16, 2017 at 9:45 am)Die Atheistin Wrote:

(September 16, 2017 at 9:39 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Sounds like asexual to me to be honest.

I didn't say that I'm not sexually attracted to anybody, I said that if I were I wouldn't be discriminated against. I do feel sexually attracted to boys, but I don't know about girls or other identities.

Oh I see. You saod you've never had a crush on anyone, I guess that threw me off?

It's difficult enough to find someone you would want to spend your life with and vice versa, so I'd say sorry but additional requests from third parties can unfortunately not be taken into consideration at this time.

You'll find someone cool in Vienna, awesome city from what I've heard!

You are young! My advice is to not worry about marriage. Protect yourself and enjoy yourself. Be smart and have fun

(September 16, 2017 at 10:17 am)Mathilda Wrote:

(September 16, 2017 at 10:14 am)Whateverist Wrote: I've been with two women who, unless they were shitting me, hadn't experienced orgasms.  I believe some number of women manage to grow up without ever discovering this capacity of their body.

I'm 43 and have never had an orgasm. I don't think that I ever will. It would be nice to have one once just to see what they are like but it's also not something that I have a strong hunger for. I normally think about my research during sex.

Wow, really? Not even with oral or if he's using a toy?

(September 16, 2017 at 2:16 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(September 16, 2017 at 10:17 am)Mathilda Wrote: I'm 43 and have never had an orgasm. I don't think that I ever will. It would be nice to have one once just to see what they are like but it's also not something that I have a strong hunger for. I normally think about my research during sex.

Wow, really? Not even with oral or if he's using a toy?

Nothing works whatsoever. Any tactile sensation more than a normal touch just feels uncomfortable.

(September 16, 2017 at 9:01 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: He called me today so we can speak. He told me many things about what I should and shouldn't do later in life. At some point, he told me that my future husband must be christian, it doesn't matter the denomination. 
This is hypocrisy, my dad doesn't believe in Hell, and he told me years ago that other religions aren't worse than ours. 
I'm in the closet atheist, and I would prefer to marry a nonebeliever like me. Yes, two persons with different religions, or a religios and a nonreligious person can get married and be happy, but I do think that atheism is right. I see other beliefs as wrong, and I don't claim otherwise, so I'm not a hypocrite, unlike my dad.
Dad insists so much sometimes about me marrying a man, I'm lucky I'm not a lesbian. I'm pretty sure he would accept me, or at the very least tolerate me if I was asexual and/or aromantic, since society doesn't usually discriminate against those kind of people, not in Europe at the very least. The thing is, I'm not entirely sure about my sexuality. I never had a crush, not a serious one at the very least, but I do feel some kind of attraction towards males, I'm not sure about girls, though. I've had fantasies about being with both boys and girls, I didn't ask for those fantasies, they sympli happened. The idea of dating an intersex person doesn't disgust me. Also, I don't know if I would like dating a transgender or non-binary person, I don't have anything against them, I sympli don't know if I am romantically or sexually attracted to them. I don't know if I'm bisexual, bi-curious, pansexual, or something else.

Ultimately your dad has no say when you are an adult. If he really loves you he doesn't have to like what you do but he still will love you. I hate the wholesale idea that marriage and having kids is the only script to life, much less the stupid attitude that you have to stick to your own label of religion. It is your life, that doesn't make you ungrateful if you marry an atheist or you don't get married at all. You are not his clone you are your own individual. If you are happy and stable and not a violent criminal, that is really what should matter to him, married or not.

(September 16, 2017 at 10:17 am)Mathilda Wrote:

(September 16, 2017 at 10:14 am)Whateverist Wrote: I've been with two women who, unless they were shitting me, hadn't experienced orgasms.  I believe some number of women manage to grow up without ever discovering this capacity of their body.

I'm 43 and have never had an orgasm. I don't think that I ever will. It would be nice to have one once just to see what they are like but it's also not something that I have a strong hunger for. I normally think about my research during sex.

I understand that you have no reason to feel a lack over this but I can't help wondering if your renal glands are producing normal amounts of testosterone for you.  If you're feeling no appetite for it, I suppose a lot of what people go through for the sake of sex must seem very silly to you.

(September 16, 2017 at 10:42 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote:

(September 16, 2017 at 9:45 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: I didn't say that I'm not sexually attracted to anybody, I said that if I were I wouldn't be discriminated against. I do feel sexually attracted to boys, but I don't know about girls or other identities.

Oh I see. You saod you've never had a crush on anyone, I guess that threw me off?

There is a difference between romantic and sexual attraction. You can be sexually attracted to someone and not romantically or vice-versa.