(December 1, 2012 at 5:59 pm)Annik Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 5:58 pm)Kousbroek Wrote: Good to hear.

But if you were to come home with a black or Japanese man they would disapprove ?

Ironically, I don't think they'd mind if I was with an Asian man, but they just hate the idea of a black person with a white person. I don't understand it.

Must be a reason they don't like blacks.

A leftover from the time of the equal rights movements ?

(December 1, 2012 at 6:07 pm)Kousbroek Wrote: [quote='Annik' pid='368595' dateline='1354399190']
Must be a reason they don't like blacks.

A leftover from the time of the equal rights movements ?

Both my parents come from Bible-Belt-Families. They are products of their social environments. This of course, does not excuse them.

(December 1, 2012 at 6:19 pm)Annik Wrote: Both my parents come from Bible-Belt-Families. They are products of their social environments. This of course, does not excuse them.

It is not so much about if they are right or wrong, it is more that i like to understand why.
So you could say they are a victim of their upbringing ?

(December 1, 2012 at 6:30 pm)Kousbroek Wrote: It is not so much about if they are right or wrong, it is more that i like to understand why.
So you could say they are a victim of their upbringing ?

Well, strictly speaking, it is not that simple. Yes, their upbringing certainly has a lot to do with it, but my father chose to work in Corrections. He's probably noticed the inmates there are more likely to be black. This enforces a schema (a sort of preconceived notion) he may hold about black people being bad news or what have you. Some mindfulness and understanding of sociology and psychology would help, but my parents are too proud to listen to me (or anyone that disagrees with them).

(December 1, 2012 at 6:35 pm)Annik Wrote: ...but my parents are too proud to listen to me (or anyone that disagrees with them).

Now that sounds familiar ...

(December 1, 2012 at 6:37 pm)Kousbroek Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 6:35 pm)Annik Wrote: ...but my parents are too proud to listen to me (or anyone that disagrees with them).

Now that sounds familiar ...

There is a term for this in social psychology, but I don't recall it right now. Basically, people don't like to be wrong, so they will do all kinds of mental circus moves to make themselves right.

(December 1, 2012 at 5:48 pm)Kousbroek Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 5:32 pm)Annik Wrote: My parents are mildly racist and conservative Republican. The don't think interracial marriages should be legal and rate neighborhoods on "how dark they are". Ugh.

I don't want to offend you but where i live that isn't considered mildly.

Nor is it here (and I'm also in the US).

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(December 1, 2012 at 6:39 pm)Annik Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 6:37 pm)Kousbroek Wrote: Now that sounds familiar ...

There is a term for this in social psychology, but I don't recall it right now. Basically, people don't like to be wrong, so they will do all kinds of mental circus moves to make themselves right.

Cognitive bias?

(December 1, 2012 at 6:56 pm)Cthulhu Dreaming Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 6:39 pm)Annik Wrote: There is a term for this in social psychology, but I don't recall it right now. Basically, people don't like to be wrong, so they will do all kinds of mental circus moves to make themselves right.

Cognitive bias?

That would be a neat over-laying sheet, but there are many, many kinds of cognitive biases. I'm trying to think of one (maybe a combo of 2) of them.

(December 1, 2012 at 6:59 pm)Annik Wrote:

(December 1, 2012 at 6:56 pm)Cthulhu Dreaming Wrote: Cognitive bias?

That would be a neat over-laying sheet, but there are many, many kinds of cognitive biases. I'm trying to think of one (maybe a combo of 2) of them.

Subjective validation?