I have to spend over 5 hours at church every week, take confirmation classes, go on retreats, go to bible study, etc. And I have to get confirmed a Catholic. My parents aren't leaving me much of a choice and it's bothering me so much. I'm going to loose my mind! What should I do?:/ Should I go along with it to keep the peace?):

Do they know you don't believe?

How old are you?

Well I think they know but are in denial. They know I dislike the Catholic Church, that I see Christianity and the bible as crazy, know that I disagree with their worldview (evolution, science, gay marriage, etc) and that I'm a Secular Humanist... But I haven't said the words "I'm an atheist" to them... I don't hide it though...

Do you think they'd kick you out/not let you go to an out of town college/cut your expenses/whatever if they knew you were an atheist? If so, always play along until you can safely leave home and support yourself.

(November 25, 2013 at 9:43 pm)Minimalist Wrote: How old are you?

I'm 16

how old are you for real? also what are their reasons for making you do this if they know you don't want it? Would they be embarrassed if u don't go or something?

(November 25, 2013 at 9:49 pm)pineapplebunnybounce Wrote: Do you think they'd kick you out/not let you go to an out of town college/cut your expenses/whatever if they knew you were an atheist? If so, always play along until you can safely leave home and support yourself.

It is definitely a possibility... I truly don't know but this whole thing is upsetting me greatly.

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(November 25, 2013 at 9:57 pm)missluckie26 Wrote: how old are you for real? also what are their reasons for making you do this if they know you don't want it? Would they be embarrassed if u don't go or something?

What do you mean "for real"? I'm 16... Generations upon generations of my family on both sides were and are Catholic. It's the norm and only way in their view... They're not truly giving me the option.

(November 25, 2013 at 9:57 pm)Wunsbee Wrote:

(November 25, 2013 at 9:49 pm)pineapplebunnybounce Wrote: Do you think they'd kick you out/not let you go to an out of town college/cut your expenses/whatever if they knew you were an atheist? If so, always play along until you can safely leave home and support yourself.

It is definitely a possibility... I truly don't know but this whole thing is upsetting me greatly.

Alright, if it's a possibility, best play it safe. Vent off your frustration elsewhere. I'm sorry but it sounds like the alternative is much worse.

If they're the reasonable type, tell them calmly about how you feel about it, don't let it turn into a shouting match though. But if they're the type who's always had this authority type relationship with you, then best not piss them off and make them think some extreme measure is needed to "save your soul".

(November 25, 2013 at 9:57 pm)Wunsbee Wrote:

(November 25, 2013 at 9:43 pm)Minimalist Wrote: How old are you?

I'm 16

Go through the motions. They can't make you believe in their bullshit.